Crying Came From the Other Room
Recently as I was checking online for the scores of my college team, I heard crying come from the other room. My wife was using this “play by yourself” time to catch up on some needed work. I was first to respond to the scene. Our youngest was under the covers of our bed crying with our oldest sitting over her saying she was sorry. Time to open the investigation.
It turned out that the oldest wanted the youngest to do something. When she couldn’t do it, the oldest bit her twice.
Naturally concern and attention went to the youngest. Hold her. Comfort her. Make her feel safe.
Can You Love the One Without Hating the Other?
Once she settled down, I dropped her off with mom for some extra attention and turned my attention toward the oldest. What am I to do? They are sisters. I can’t permanently remove them from each other. I love them both. Sure I will discipline the oldest, but I also don’t want to crush her spirit.
How Would God Handle It?
Can you imagine this is what God does day in and day out. He has a huge heart of love for each person—those that are mean and do evil things and those that have evil things done to them. He is able to go to the child who has been molested to give comfort healing and peace. He is also just as able to go to the child molester and calmed their storm and give forgiveness. Somehow while maintaining justice, God can love the one without hating the other.
Corrie ten Boom was a victim of the evil concentration camps in Nazi Germany. After the war, she was in a church in Munich telling the story of the forgiving God. At the end of her sermon, a guard from her concentration camp came forward. Recognizing him, fear and pain once again gripped her heart. He introduced himself and asked to hear her say she forgave him.
Do We Believe God’s Love is For Both the Bully and the Victim?
Can He love one without hating the other? If we dare to believe that He can and He does, then we can follow Corrie’s example as she extended her hand to forgive. Even as she did so out of complete wooded faith, God showed up and send a current of His healing down to both her and this guard. Love had been release and received.
We need to embrace a God who can love the bully and the victim because we have been both ourselves. We need to embrace this truth to fully hold to the truth of our forgiveness. And, as we release forgiveness on others, we open ourselves up to more of the love of God.
After I talked to both girls, I had the oldest ask the youngest for forgiveness, which she gave quickly and readily. How we need to be like a little child?!! Our Heavenly Father loves us all, as we are all His kids. We don’t know what He is doing with the other person, but we need to trust God with him or her. God will protect us by healing our hearts and dealing with the other person. As we release them, we are free to live our lives instead of controlling theirs. This is the heart of this Godly belief from the addiction recovery prayers:
- I am forgiven and protected by God. I choose to release all those that have hurt me and bless them that I may pursue life.
image courtesy of David Taffet