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God Wants to Have Sex With You

God Wants to Have Sex With You

Ok, What’s the Catch?

I realize that some of you are hesitantly reading this post. You are half-interested and half-scared what may be said. With that in mind let me quickly clarify what I mean.

God gave us marriage to represent His love for His people. (Ephesians 5:31-32). This verse is about the two becoming one flesh. Sex represents the level of intimacy and partnership He is after with us. He wants a relationship with us where we are naked and not ashamed (Genesis 2:25), so He can pour His full love on us.

What Does Sex With God Look Like?

I really believe this will look different for each person. However it will be an intimate encounter that that is deeply personal which we can pursue. It may be hard to explain to others and even a little bit embarrassing to talk about, because, the experience wasn’t for them but an expression of love between  you and God.

The Bible tells us that we are the bride of Christ (2 Corinthians 11:2). Bear with me a little here. If we are the bride, then God is the male in this relationship. Stereotypically this means He is the initiator and the one more desiring sex. Women generally understand this role and therefore typically have a more intimate relationship with God. They know how to respond to His initiation and even how to encourage it.

As men, this subject is very confusing, and we often leave God wanting more. Still this type of relationship with God is available. Here are two aspects of sex we should understand to grow in this intimate part of our relationship with God.

How Can Sex Teach Us How To Relate To God?

1. A Relationship Without Sex is Not a Marriage; It’s Just a Friendship.

We love our friends. We enjoy them, but there is a part of our relationship we don’t share with them. That is saved for marriage. Sex is an intimate encounter that bonds you to your spouse. The husband puts his DNA into the wife and the two become like each other. The two become one and can never fully become two again.

My wife and I went to a marriage conference when we were first married, and they said if you want to get your wife ready for sex, then you should do the dishes. What they meant was that women were not like men, who are always ready for sex. Women stereotypically will have trouble engaging in sex if there are unfinished details in their lives. Fights with the kids, stress over finances, and busyness of work all can hinder a woman’s ability to give herself to sex.

In our relationship with God, the problems of this world can hinder our relationship with God. We no longer come to prayer to spend time with God, but now we need things from Him. We stop reading the Bible to connect with more of Him, but rush through it to check it off our to do list to get to the next thing. Are we willing to take every thought captive in order to give Him our full attention, which is needed for intimacy?

2. Sex Without a Relationship is Not Intimacy; It’s a One-Night Stand.

Encounters with God can be very enjoyable, but they are invitations to know God more. The Israelites experienced the deeds of God, but only Moses pressed in to know God’s ways (Psalm 103:7). Saul experienced a touch from God after being anointed king (1 Samuel 10:9-11), but he didn’t develop his relationship and lost his kingdom. Encounters with God are intended to deepen our love. God wants more of us. God wants all of us.

It may still be too uncomfortable for you to think that God wants to have sex with you. However, please know God wants personal encounters with you. Knowledge about God is good. Praying to God is good. Worship is good. But, don’t stop there. Press into the holy of holies. Jesus tore the curtain so we can come before the throne of God with confidence knowing He wants us with Him. May you experience more and more encounters with our loving God even this week. Blessings!

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35 Responses to “God Wants to Have Sex With You”

  1. Rachel says:

    I really enjoyed this article. I am not married and I have never experienced the intimacy of sex, but I love the idea of God being the initiator of the love and intimacy. However, I would suggest that you should change the title of this post. People (especially those who don’t know God) who find this post just by surfing the internet may get the wrong idea about God and actually be repelled. Otherwise, this post was really meaningful.

    • Dear Rachel,

      Thank you for your comment and for hearing my heart on the subject. You may be right about the need to change the title as there have been some who have left because of it. I hated to see that, but as of now I don’t feel to change the title, or what I would change it to if I did. Do you have any suggestions?


      • Lashanda says:

        I actually thought of this exact title today, and told my son. Then I said Google that, see if it’s ever been said before. Exact wording!!

  2. Rachel says:

    Oh, and I also love the thought of God wanting to love on me. Thanks

  3. Jamie says:

    Nice article! Very refreshing. You are one of the few people I know from any tradition (Hindu, Christian, Jewish, Sufi, etc.) who are actually talking about this. Yes, the title is “scary” for the uninitiated and I hope it won’t bring you persecution, but I appreciate your boldness. The mystics of all traditions recognize that we were created for divine intimacy and there is simply nothing better than union with God. Carry on the good work. I am a Sister in the Community of Francis and Clare. You might enjoy my website. God bless you.

  4. rachel says:

    Thank you so much this. Please keep the title as is. I am going thru what you are describing and more. I asked God if anyone else was going thru this for I was never taught we could see Jesus in a sexualized way. I have learned that he is a ALPHA MALE but his is also a darling. He is very sexual, in fact he is the best. Once you get a taste of him… No one can follow him. I have learned that is why everyone is not chosen to share this blessed experience with him. It can disrupt the natural course of things if nobody wanted to marry. Getting a taste of h can send everyone into a frenzy. So he doesn’t pick everyone. If you say sex with him the ones who have gone down this path will know. And you are right he was the initiator for me.

    • Dear Rachel,
      Thank you for your encouragement. God is so good in many ways. I admit this is an unusual subject that people are uncomfortable with. I can understand your battle. May you continue to feel His immense pleasure over you.

    • Faith says:

      Are you implying that you have an intimate sexual relayionship with him?

      • God wants to use all of life to draw us into a deeper relationship with Him. I can remember dating my wife and feeling so in love. I would hug her and squeeze her so tight because I couldn’t get close enough. Now that we are married and are one flesh, God wants us to know He wants that type of relationship with Him too.

        I don’t want to get in what it should look like, because I think it will and should be different for each of us. I do however think we need to be pursuing intimacy to deeper levels with God.

        Faith, I understand this is a new idea for some. I hope my explanation helps.


  5. rachel says:

    I am so glad that you put this post out there in the way you did. A year ago I search the net and there was really nothing on it. So when I asked God and he told me yes there were others… Women and men…I thought I was making it up because I couldnt find evidence of it. I searched scriptures and there wasn’t anything. I saw, where God created Eve for Adam.There was never ANY indication of this kind of relationship with God and man…. That is until you get to the book pf Ezekiel – where God uses explicit sexually charged language to express his hurt and anger toward a wayward chosen people.And when you examine the details of the covenant with Abraham and Moses and why it involved the genitalia. It is in other places in the bible too… But is hidden in plain sight for those who are not open to see. I found Isaiah 54:5 KJV and Psalm 73:25KJV that I hold dearly onto. I believe our Lord is incredibly sexual and the intimacy is astounding for those of us who can trust him through the process. For me it was hard, I felt like I was dirty to think of him this way. I also felt like I, was blaspheming Him too… It was really hrd to listen to other believers give their “clean” accounts of their clean experiences with God while mine seemed to be otherwise. I never fept condemnation, evil, I never even fept it was wrong. As I allowed myself to be intimate with my Lord Jesus the words of the bible came alive. I felt ALIVE in him. It wasnt at, all like the lifeless routine and daily rote that one’s walk with the Lord can become. I don’t know what is going on. I know others have been bitten in a similar way that I have. (And like you I don’t believe it is the same for everyone – it is personal).I would dare broach this subject yo the common masses for I know this is NOT widely accepted or even known. But I wish it was something everyone could have because he is totally AWESOME!I cant emphasize that enough. Once you go Jesus you dont go back.

    • ..ACS says:

      Hi Rachel
      I’ve just now today discovered this as well. It’s totally amazing! I also wish this was something everyone would know. It’s taken me a long time to discover this, I always thought something was missing before. Now everything makes much more sense. But I also felt always very weird, when I had these kinds of thoughts in the past and agree absolutely: “For me it was hard, I felt like I was dirty to think of him this way. I also felt like I, was blaspheming Him too… “.

    • Elham says:

      Thank you for writing this Kevin.
      And rachel, thank you so much for sharing your experience…when it started with me i kept asking myself if im not doing something wrong or bad, He replied by telling me if it feels bad then its bad, if it feels good and it harms no one then why question it… I long for Him every night now, and all day long. Its an experience beyond explanation, its felt by every cell of my being, and no its not necessary the act, its how every inch of my body feels when He is present.
      Ah… Its Love.

      • Dear Elham,

        Thank you for your comment. I don’t know your situation, but God’s word can bring peace to help us receive from Him. I would caution about applying that logic to other things, as it could be misused if God doesn’t give His ok.


    • Mary Lehman says:

      That is true! Read the book the Fire Within

  6. Angel says:

    I am happy I have found this place. As many commentators above me have said this is not something you can find easily on scripture or something you can share. I understand what each of you mean and I have to say erotic love towards God may not be usual or talked about much but it is definitely a unique and precious experience to have. Also with God being beyond Creation He can very well be a very tender and wonderful female lover for those who want Him so. God is not obnoxious or picky. He just wants to pierce all the way to the core of your heart. The rest to Him doesn’t matter. I think he rejoices in our joy, no matter what form that takes. May this race be continued to be blessed by such transformative divine experiences.

  7. Sydney says:

    It happened to me once with HS a who prepared me and since with Him. I will even describe first exp, like whirlwindseminated from my heart the going towards extremities leaving torso in form of whirlwinds traveling along extremities exiting body from them, unlike any earthly experience ever had, been married, divorced, married and widowed…sought internet and Scriptures and books to understand, and found it was similar to ‘kiss of death”…

    • Dear Sydney,
      Thank you for you comment. I’m glad you could relate, but not sure I understand your ‘kiss of death’. I have several guesses, but not sure what you mean.

      I wish you all the best.

  8. Lisa Jones says:

    I really like your article cuz I’ve been having feelings of wanting to have sex with God and i was like am I the only one in the world I must be sick or crazy or something but keep the title I wouldn’t of know any other way cuz I wanted to find out some answers so this is the best article ever!!

    • Dear Lisa,

      When I was dating my wife, I remember hugging her so tight and just wanting to be even closer. It was not so much a sexual thing, but just a desire of being more intimate. I feel the desire for sex with God is along the same lines.

      Most people probably will feel you are crazy or sick for these desires, so I would suggest being selective on who you share it with. People who know you well can hear your heart and accept you in the process.

      I pray you find that greater intimacy you are looking for. God is incredibly personal and real.


  9. Joseph Whitelaw says:

    How do I make love to God or how does God make love to me. I am a rape Survivor and when I read this well it made me wonder could you explain a little bit more please. Just so you know I am a Christian I have accepted Christ as my Lord and Savior Jesus his father is my father and the church is my family.

    • Dear Joseph,

      I understand you are coming from this from a different perspective. I don’t want to insinuate that God will do anything against your will. I’m highlighting that all of God’s blessings, which sex in its intended form is a blessing, all of His blessings are teaching us more about how God wants tolerate to us. He longs for deep intimacy with us. He wants us to give Him our all. For what this looks like, it will look different for each person. God is desiring intense intimacy with each of us.


  10. Akua says:

    OMG i was scared to read this…but its so true….youve blessed me with this article so God richly bless you back!

  11. Jessica Kensinge says:

    I’m so glad I put this search in Google. I feel a lot better. Is anyone still watching this post?

  12. Denise Hartung says:

    Thank you for the article,it was just what I needed.I struggled with being that close to Jesus,I just desire him in every way.Thank you!Purchased a lot of different books on the Song of Solomon,Song of songs,now it makes sense!

  13. April says:

    Another good scripture is Ezekiel 16:8. I especially like The Message and GOD’S WORD® translations. Also, I am with Rachel as it is totally awesome, and I have not told a soul. I, too, wish everyone could know it as it would change the world. However, I do kind of feel that as some point soon this will be coming out more widely as the kingdom of darkness has for too long robbed us of our sexuality, and I strongly feel that it is coming time for it to be restored to us, the children of God. It is really becoming time for everyone to see that God is actually much more fun than we have been led to believe. There are so many times, I want to shout from the rooftops, “Taste and see that the Lord is good; blessed is the one who takes refuge in him.” (NIV)

  14. Pat Burke says:

    I would modify the title from “Have Sex” to “Have an Intimate Relationship” and modify the articles sub-titles. For a lot of folks using God and Sex in the same sentence is offensive. God wants an intimate relationship with us…not sex.
    Do you have a statement of faith, doctrines on your site? Just wondering on your theology.
    Did you decide to use sex in your titles just for the shock effect-is this just another whacko web site on the internet? Your article does make some very goods points that will hopefully be a blessing to the people that read it.
    With titles like this it is hard for me to recommend this site.


    • Dear Pat,

      Thank you so much for your comment. I understand many people have had a hard time with the title, but I love that you took the time to read and try to understand my point. I really appreciate this. And, I can understand how you still may feel uncomfortable with the title – I lost several people because of this.

      So why did I do it? Or, why leave it up? I desire this blog to bring freedom to people’s relationship with God. Sex is an area that even married couples have a hard time with God. It was uncomfortable to my wife and me when we started to pray after sex. We wanted to start this when we first were trying to have kids and give everything over to God. God wants to be in every area of our lives. As I mentioned in the article, He wants to use everything to draw us into a better understanding of Him.

      If we are freaked out about the topic of sex, then we will not look to see what God is trying to reveal about Himself in it.

      I have at times regretted the title because I don’t want to be offensive, I don’t want to freak people out. But as I pray about it, I feel I should leave it up as they are people who need the freedom in it.

      As for a doctrinal statement, I don’t have one explicitly written out, but I have over 500 articles up that represent my doctrine. Basically, I believe God wants a deep and personal relationship with each one of us. He longs to bless and love everyone, including non-Christians. I believe Jesus is the only way to God and opens us up to a greater awareness of God’s work around us. Our role of Christians, as ministers of reconciliation, is to be so full of love for those around us that people will want to be around us and therefore want to come to our God.

      Pat, I hope you stick around. I think you will like a lot of what I have written.

      Thanks again for your comment,
      Kevin Shorter

  15. Justin says:

    I’ve been having these feelings as well. I feel like God wants me to give my desires to Him until I get married.

  16. Emma says:


    As a lone woman, this means so much to me. I’ve always had these strange “dirty” thoughts about God, but kept it secret because of the social stigma. But you’ve shown me a light! I want nothing more than to please Him and allow Him to intimately penetrate my soul. I have a few embarassing questions to ask about this topic, so I’d greatly appreciate it if you could maybe answer them over email instead?

    Thank you so much! Many blessings to you 🙂


  17. Francis says:

    Thank you so much for writing this article. I have these feelings about God/Jesus as well, always have, as long as I can remember. It’s never been platonic, although like many I fought it for a long time because I thought it was blasphemy. Through His Word (repeatedly), He taught me otherwise.

    For example, He told me that I am “a Psalm One person”. I looked up Psalm One and the penultimate line read: “for the Lord guards the way of the righteous”. The footnote in my Catholic Bible reads that the verb can also be “knows”, implying protection as well as emotional and sexual intimacy. I was pretty bowled over by that! Then of course you have the Song of Songs, Hosea, Isaiah…the list goes on.

    I believe He chooses some humans to experience this kind of attachment with Him in this life; it’s a vocation as valid as marriage and offers a foretaste of our eternal union with Him as His bride. I’m pretty sure that’s what has inspired many people through the ages to choose consecrated/religious life. This certainly seems to have been the case with mystics such as St. Teresa of Avila.

    Anyway I’m very glad to find others who are walking this path with Him. I recommend you guys have a look at ‘Jesus the Bridegroom’ by Brant Pitre; it’s a good read and really sealed the deal for me as far as romantic love for God is concerned. Also ‘Falling in Love with Jesus’ by Dee Brestin and Kathy Troccoli. God bless.

  18. Clara says:

    Ia have read. This is a real reality. Live love relationship with Jesus.
    This is the foundation of the monastic profession: the invitation.This is not easy: to recognize accepting yes to say yes.Jesus God. But man, too. That is why it can be related to people as well.As I learned from a nun apprentice: who was invited to this: Jesus is a living real loveable person. But this is not the same as earthly marriage:Its full love, and deep intimacy, from J esus to for me…very nice life with Him.This can be experienced with contemplative meditation practices of St. Ignatius Loyola. If your fruits are good and your life is brought to God then it is okay. There is love, passion, loyalty, trust, intimacy, but respect is important. Because He uses the language of love that we understand to attract you .. so that faith in love must be respected together.



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