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God Wants to Have Sex With You

God Wants to Have Sex With You

Ok, What’s the Catch?

I realize that some of you are hesitantly reading this post. You are half-interested and half-scared what may be said. With that in mind let me quickly clarify what I mean.

God gave us marriage to represent His love for His people. (Ephesians 5:31-32). This verse is about the two becoming one flesh. Sex represents the level of intimacy and partnership He is after with us. He wants a relationship with us where we are naked and not ashamed (Genesis 2:25), so He can pour His full love on us.

What Does Sex With God Look Like?

I really believe this will look different for each person. However it will be an intimate encounter that that is deeply personal which we can pursue. It may be hard to explain to others and even a little bit embarrassing to talk about, because, the experience wasn’t for them but an expression of love between  you and God.

The Bible tells us that we are the bride of Christ (2 Corinthians 11:2). Bear with me a little here. If we are the bride, then God is the male in this relationship. Stereotypically this means He is the initiator and the one more desiring sex. Women generally understand this role and therefore typically have a more intimate relationship with God. They know how to respond to His initiation and even how to encourage it.

As men, this subject is very confusing, and we often leave God wanting more. Still this type of relationship with God is available. Here are two aspects of sex we should understand to grow in this intimate part of our relationship with God.

How Can Sex Teach Us How To Relate To God?

1. A Relationship Without Sex is Not a Marriage; It’s Just a Friendship.

We love our friends. We enjoy them, but there is a part of our relationship we don’t share with them. That is saved for marriage. Sex is an intimate encounter that bonds you to your spouse. The husband puts his DNA into the wife and the two become like each other. The two become one and can never fully become two again.

My wife and I went to a marriage conference when we were first married, and they said if you want to get your wife ready for sex, then you should do the dishes. What they meant was that women were not like men, who are always ready for sex. Women stereotypically will have trouble engaging in sex if there are unfinished details in their lives. Fights with the kids, stress over finances, and busyness of work all can hinder a woman’s ability to give herself to sex.

In our relationship with God, the problems of this world can hinder our relationship with God. We no longer come to prayer to spend time with God, but now we need things from Him. We stop reading the Bible to connect with more of Him, but rush through it to check it off our to do list to get to the next thing. Are we willing to take every thought captive in order to give Him our full attention, which is needed for intimacy?

2. Sex Without a Relationship is Not Intimacy; It’s a One-Night Stand.

Encounters with God can be very enjoyable, but they are invitations to know God more. The Israelites experienced the deeds of God, but only Moses pressed in to know God’s ways (Psalm 103:7). Saul experienced a touch from God after being anointed king (1 Samuel 10:9-11), but he didn’t develop his relationship and lost his kingdom. Encounters with God are intended to deepen our love. God wants more of us. God wants all of us.

It may still be too uncomfortable for you to think that God wants to have sex with you. However, please know God wants personal encounters with you. Knowledge about God is good. Praying to God is good. Worship is good. But, don’t stop there. Press into the holy of holies. Jesus tore the curtain so we can come before the throne of God with confidence knowing He wants us with Him. May you experience more and more encounters with our loving God even this week. Blessings!

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150 Responses to “God Wants to Have Sex With You”

  1. Rachel says:

    I really enjoyed this article. I am not married and I have never experienced the intimacy of sex, but I love the idea of God being the initiator of the love and intimacy. However, I would suggest that you should change the title of this post. People (especially those who don’t know God) who find this post just by surfing the internet may get the wrong idea about God and actually be repelled. Otherwise, this post was really meaningful.

    • Dear Rachel,

      Thank you for your comment and for hearing my heart on the subject. You may be right about the need to change the title as there have been some who have left because of it. I hated to see that, but as of now I don’t feel to change the title, or what I would change it to if I did. Do you have any suggestions?

      Thanks,
      Kevin

      • Lashanda says:

        I actually thought of this exact title today, and told my son. Then I said Google that, see if it’s ever been said before. Exact wording!!

      • Stephen Song says:

        hi,
        yes, it could be controversial and it surely might provoke many people as well. Besides the title, all you wording and explanation makes all good sense I think. YET, just with normal and popular understanding of the word “SEX”, doesn’t it get related with physical sexual affairs? Of course we definitely want to be in love with God our Lord and we have to be, yet not in that way, isn’t it. I understand that it might attract the attention but still it is just beyond it should be.
        s

  2. Rachel says:

    Oh, and I also love the thought of God wanting to love on me. Thanks

  3. Jamie says:

    Nice article! Very refreshing. You are one of the few people I know from any tradition (Hindu, Christian, Jewish, Sufi, etc.) who are actually talking about this. Yes, the title is “scary” for the uninitiated and I hope it won’t bring you persecution, but I appreciate your boldness. The mystics of all traditions recognize that we were created for divine intimacy and there is simply nothing better than union with God. Carry on the good work. I am a Sister in the Community of Francis and Clare. You might enjoy my website. God bless you.

  4. rachel says:

    Thank you so much this. Please keep the title as is. I am going thru what you are describing and more. I asked God if anyone else was going thru this for I was never taught we could see Jesus in a sexualized way. I have learned that he is a ALPHA MALE but his is also a darling. He is very sexual, in fact he is the best. Once you get a taste of him… No one can follow him. I have learned that is why everyone is not chosen to share this blessed experience with him. It can disrupt the natural course of things if nobody wanted to marry. Getting a taste of h can send everyone into a frenzy. So he doesn’t pick everyone. If you say sex with him the ones who have gone down this path will know. And you are right he was the initiator for me.

    • Dear Rachel,
      Thank you for your encouragement. God is so good in many ways. I admit this is an unusual subject that people are uncomfortable with. I can understand your battle. May you continue to feel His immense pleasure over you.
      Blessings,
      Kevin

    • Faith says:

      Are you implying that you have an intimate sexual relayionship with him?

      • God wants to use all of life to draw us into a deeper relationship with Him. I can remember dating my wife and feeling so in love. I would hug her and squeeze her so tight because I couldn’t get close enough. Now that we are married and are one flesh, God wants us to know He wants that type of relationship with Him too.

        I don’t want to get in what it should look like, because I think it will and should be different for each of us. I do however think we need to be pursuing intimacy to deeper levels with God.

        Faith, I understand this is a new idea for some. I hope my explanation helps.

        Blessings,
        Kevin

    • Mary Lehman says:

      Same here Jesus has called me to a very intimate relationship with Him.

    • Tanya Leticia says:

      Hi Rachel! Thanks for your testimony. I too have had several visitations from our Master in recent times. Yes!!! He is awesome!! Just awesome!! He wants me everyday and will never get tired of me.

    • Matt says:

      Yes, King Yeshua of Nazareth is amazing. I began researching what it meant as a man to be his bride and wife. He let me know this is what He wants. For several months he has been filling me with spiritual seeds, literally ejaculating them into my heart.

      He is the ultimate alpha male God of the universe and I am so happy I have given myself to Him. I can’t wait to have a glorified body as I will experience deeper levels of submission to my master. He is so powerful and always gets His way with me. I can’t get enough of my master Jesus of Nazareth.

  5. rachel says:

    I am so glad that you put this post out there in the way you did. A year ago I search the net and there was really nothing on it. So when I asked God and he told me yes there were others… Women and men…I thought I was making it up because I couldnt find evidence of it. I searched scriptures and there wasn’t anything. I saw, where God created Eve for Adam.There was never ANY indication of this kind of relationship with God and man…. That is until you get to the book pf Ezekiel – where God uses explicit sexually charged language to express his hurt and anger toward a wayward chosen people.And when you examine the details of the covenant with Abraham and Moses and why it involved the genitalia. It is in other places in the bible too… But is hidden in plain sight for those who are not open to see. I found Isaiah 54:5 KJV and Psalm 73:25KJV that I hold dearly onto. I believe our Lord is incredibly sexual and the intimacy is astounding for those of us who can trust him through the process. For me it was hard, I felt like I was dirty to think of him this way. I also felt like I, was blaspheming Him too… It was really hrd to listen to other believers give their “clean” accounts of their clean experiences with God while mine seemed to be otherwise. I never fept condemnation, evil, I never even fept it was wrong. As I allowed myself to be intimate with my Lord Jesus the words of the bible came alive. I felt ALIVE in him. It wasnt at, all like the lifeless routine and daily rote that one’s walk with the Lord can become. I don’t know what is going on. I know others have been bitten in a similar way that I have. (And like you I don’t believe it is the same for everyone – it is personal).I would dare broach this subject yo the common masses for I know this is NOT widely accepted or even known. But I wish it was something everyone could have because he is totally AWESOME!I cant emphasize that enough. Once you go Jesus you dont go back.

    • ..ACS says:

      Hi Rachel
      I’ve just now today discovered this as well. It’s totally amazing! I also wish this was something everyone would know. It’s taken me a long time to discover this, I always thought something was missing before. Now everything makes much more sense. But I also felt always very weird, when I had these kinds of thoughts in the past and agree absolutely: “For me it was hard, I felt like I was dirty to think of him this way. I also felt like I, was blaspheming Him too… “.

    • Elham says:

      Thank you for writing this Kevin.
      And rachel, thank you so much for sharing your experience…when it started with me i kept asking myself if im not doing something wrong or bad, He replied by telling me if it feels bad then its bad, if it feels good and it harms no one then why question it… I long for Him every night now, and all day long. Its an experience beyond explanation, its felt by every cell of my being, and no its not necessary the act, its how every inch of my body feels when He is present.
      Ah… Its Love.

      • Dear Elham,

        Thank you for your comment. I don’t know your situation, but God’s word can bring peace to help us receive from Him. I would caution about applying that logic to other things, as it could be misused if God doesn’t give His ok.

        Blessings,
        Kevin

    • Mary Lehman says:

      That is true! Read the book the Fire Within

  6. Angel says:

    I am happy I have found this place. As many commentators above me have said this is not something you can find easily on scripture or something you can share. I understand what each of you mean and I have to say erotic love towards God may not be usual or talked about much but it is definitely a unique and precious experience to have. Also with God being beyond Creation He can very well be a very tender and wonderful female lover for those who want Him so. God is not obnoxious or picky. He just wants to pierce all the way to the core of your heart. The rest to Him doesn’t matter. I think he rejoices in our joy, no matter what form that takes. May this race be continued to be blessed by such transformative divine experiences.

  7. Sydney says:

    It happened to me once with HS a who prepared me and since with Him. I will even describe first exp, like whirlwindseminated from my heart the going towards extremities leaving torso in form of whirlwinds traveling along extremities exiting body from them, unlike any earthly experience ever had, been married, divorced, married and widowed…sought internet and Scriptures and books to understand, and found it was similar to ‘kiss of death”…

    • Dear Sydney,
      Thank you for you comment. I’m glad you could relate, but not sure I understand your ‘kiss of death’. I have several guesses, but not sure what you mean.

      I wish you all the best.
      Kevin

  8. Lisa Jones says:

    I really like your article cuz I’ve been having feelings of wanting to have sex with God and i was like am I the only one in the world I must be sick or crazy or something but keep the title I wouldn’t of know any other way cuz I wanted to find out some answers so this is the best article ever!!

    • Dear Lisa,

      When I was dating my wife, I remember hugging her so tight and just wanting to be even closer. It was not so much a sexual thing, but just a desire of being more intimate. I feel the desire for sex with God is along the same lines.

      Most people probably will feel you are crazy or sick for these desires, so I would suggest being selective on who you share it with. People who know you well can hear your heart and accept you in the process.

      I pray you find that greater intimacy you are looking for. God is incredibly personal and real.

      Blessings,
      Kevin

  9. Joseph Whitelaw says:

    How do I make love to God or how does God make love to me. I am a rape Survivor and when I read this well it made me wonder could you explain a little bit more please. Just so you know I am a Christian I have accepted Christ as my Lord and Savior Jesus his father is my father and the church is my family.

    • Dear Joseph,

      I understand you are coming from this from a different perspective. I don’t want to insinuate that God will do anything against your will. I’m highlighting that all of God’s blessings, which sex in its intended form is a blessing, all of His blessings are teaching us more about how God wants tolerate to us. He longs for deep intimacy with us. He wants us to give Him our all. For what this looks like, it will look different for each person. God is desiring intense intimacy with each of us.

      Blessings,
      Kevin

  10. Akua says:

    OMG i was scared to read this…but its so true….youve blessed me with this article so God richly bless you back!

  11. Jessica Kensinge says:

    I’m so glad I put this search in Google. I feel a lot better. Is anyone still watching this post?

  12. Denise Hartung says:

    Thank you for the article,it was just what I needed.I struggled with being that close to Jesus,I just desire him in every way.Thank you!Purchased a lot of different books on the Song of Solomon,Song of songs,now it makes sense!

  13. April says:

    Another good scripture is Ezekiel 16:8. I especially like The Message and GOD’S WORD® translations. Also, I am with Rachel as it is totally awesome, and I have not told a soul. I, too, wish everyone could know it as it would change the world. However, I do kind of feel that as some point soon this will be coming out more widely as the kingdom of darkness has for too long robbed us of our sexuality, and I strongly feel that it is coming time for it to be restored to us, the children of God. It is really becoming time for everyone to see that God is actually much more fun than we have been led to believe. There are so many times, I want to shout from the rooftops, “Taste and see that the Lord is good; blessed is the one who takes refuge in him.” (NIV)

  14. Pat Burke says:

    I would modify the title from “Have Sex” to “Have an Intimate Relationship” and modify the articles sub-titles. For a lot of folks using God and Sex in the same sentence is offensive. God wants an intimate relationship with us…not sex.
    Do you have a statement of faith, doctrines on your site? Just wondering on your theology.
    Did you decide to use sex in your titles just for the shock effect-is this just another whacko web site on the internet? Your article does make some very goods points that will hopefully be a blessing to the people that read it.
    With titles like this it is hard for me to recommend this site.

    Blessing,
    Pat

    • Dear Pat,

      Thank you so much for your comment. I understand many people have had a hard time with the title, but I love that you took the time to read and try to understand my point. I really appreciate this. And, I can understand how you still may feel uncomfortable with the title – I lost several people because of this.

      So why did I do it? Or, why leave it up? I desire this blog to bring freedom to people’s relationship with God. Sex is an area that even married couples have a hard time with God. It was uncomfortable to my wife and me when we started to pray after sex. We wanted to start this when we first were trying to have kids and give everything over to God. God wants to be in every area of our lives. As I mentioned in the article, He wants to use everything to draw us into a better understanding of Him.

      If we are freaked out about the topic of sex, then we will not look to see what God is trying to reveal about Himself in it.

      I have at times regretted the title because I don’t want to be offensive, I don’t want to freak people out. But as I pray about it, I feel I should leave it up as they are people who need the freedom in it.

      As for a doctrinal statement, I don’t have one explicitly written out, but I have over 500 articles up that represent my doctrine. Basically, I believe God wants a deep and personal relationship with each one of us. He longs to bless and love everyone, including non-Christians. I believe Jesus is the only way to God and opens us up to a greater awareness of God’s work around us. Our role of Christians, as ministers of reconciliation, is to be so full of love for those around us that people will want to be around us and therefore want to come to our God.

      Pat, I hope you stick around. I think you will like a lot of what I have written.

      Thanks again for your comment,
      Kevin Shorter

  15. Justin says:

    I’ve been having these feelings as well. I feel like God wants me to give my desires to Him until I get married.

  16. Emma says:

    Hello!

    As a lone woman, this means so much to me. I’ve always had these strange “dirty” thoughts about God, but kept it secret because of the social stigma. But you’ve shown me a light! I want nothing more than to please Him and allow Him to intimately penetrate my soul. I have a few embarassing questions to ask about this topic, so I’d greatly appreciate it if you could maybe answer them over email instead?

    Thank you so much! Many blessings to you 🙂

    Regards,

  17. Francis says:

    Thank you so much for writing this article. I have these feelings about God/Jesus as well, always have, as long as I can remember. It’s never been platonic, although like many I fought it for a long time because I thought it was blasphemy. Through His Word (repeatedly), He taught me otherwise.

    For example, He told me that I am “a Psalm One person”. I looked up Psalm One and the penultimate line read: “for the Lord guards the way of the righteous”. The footnote in my Catholic Bible reads that the verb can also be “knows”, implying protection as well as emotional and sexual intimacy. I was pretty bowled over by that! Then of course you have the Song of Songs, Hosea, Isaiah…the list goes on.

    I believe He chooses some humans to experience this kind of attachment with Him in this life; it’s a vocation as valid as marriage and offers a foretaste of our eternal union with Him as His bride. I’m pretty sure that’s what has inspired many people through the ages to choose consecrated/religious life. This certainly seems to have been the case with mystics such as St. Teresa of Avila.

    Anyway I’m very glad to find others who are walking this path with Him. I recommend you guys have a look at ‘Jesus the Bridegroom’ by Brant Pitre; it’s a good read and really sealed the deal for me as far as romantic love for God is concerned. Also ‘Falling in Love with Jesus’ by Dee Brestin and Kathy Troccoli. God bless.

  18. Clara says:

    Ia have read. This is a real reality. Live love relationship with Jesus.
    This is the foundation of the monastic profession: the invitation.This is not easy: to recognize accepting yes to say yes.Jesus God. But man, too. That is why it can be related to people as well.As I learned from a nun apprentice: who was invited to this: Jesus is a living real loveable person. But this is not the same as earthly marriage:Its full love, and deep intimacy, from J esus to for me…very nice life with Him.This can be experienced with contemplative meditation practices of St. Ignatius Loyola. If your fruits are good and your life is brought to God then it is okay. There is love, passion, loyalty, trust, intimacy, but respect is important. Because He uses the language of love that we understand to attract you .. so that faith in love must be respected together.

    Clara

  19. Mark says:

    Oh my God. This article made my soul much more lighter than ever! I’m a gay Christian. Ever since I acknowledged that I’m gay, and that the Bible never mentioned anything positive about homosexuals, homosexuality or gay marriage, I became a completely different person, knowing nothing except depression, misery, fear and despair. The idea wouldn’t have hurt me if I was an atheist, or someone who doesn’t love or take God seriously, but I was always concerned about God’s love for me. I had often believed that I’m an abomination, a worthless being, a false creation that isn’t worth existing. It hurt me so badly that I all I could think of is commit suicide and vanish from existence. The main reason of my despair wasn’t of how would society would accept me, but that the thought of God rejecting me already feels like hell to me, a real living hell. Throughout my 4 years of depression, I began to understand that not everything regarding homosexuality might not be considered sinful. Based on my understanding, I think it all came down to lust and love. There’s obviously a difference. The moment I learned that, I felt more accepting to an idea of mine: “Stay a virgin during all my lifetime here on earth to be Jesus’s tender bride”. Of course, it sounds harsh or too hard for a human to handle, to forfeit experiencing sexual intimacy. During my journey of faith, I began to fantasize Jesus, as my sweet loving Husband, in terms of sensual intimacy only. Then, as time passed, it began to be in terms of sensual and sexual intimacy. My mind was split in 2! At times, I enjoyed imagining the romance and tenderness, and at other times, I felt like crying so hard that I thought it might look dirty or inappropriate for Him, or depressing to the idea that sexual love between Jesus and a soul wouldn’t exist at all, since He’s a God, not a human anymore. I even promised Him that I’ll abandon all my sexual fantasy thoughts, just to feel His gentle touch. Now, I’m genuinely a happy soul. Surprisingly, I’m no longer addicted to watching pornography, since all my love and attention is all on Jesus!! It’s easier to see myself as Jesus’ bride, wearing what would a bride dress, and Jesus, wearing a suit, visualizing a beautiful wedding! I’m so happy, happy to feel like my soul is longing to fly around freely! After I read this article and it’s comments, I’m more confident with Jesus’ love within me! My depression is definitely meeting it’s end! Jesus is really the only one who could fix my rotten and broken heart when I actually thought that He broke it during the first years of my despair! And come to think of it, I think I can understand why Jesus made me gay. He wanted me to focus entirely on Him, during my life and afterlife. It is a personal relationship, the one and only relationship I’m going to have! I thought I’m the only one who would think of such relationship with God, but it turns out that I was wrong! It really feels good to see others yearning for Jesus’ tenderness. It might be easy for women to feel connected. As for men, it could be super confusing to them, but as for a gay Christian who’s madly and insanely in love with Jesus, I am proud to be gay only for Jesus. He’s my all, my one and only. I’m thankful that I haven’t committed suicide and found hope before my despair could swallow me. Him and my beloved mother were my biggest support. Sir Kevin, if you don’t mind me asking such a bizarre a question… No man on earth would probably embrace the thought of God’s compassion like the way you perceive it… A regular straight or heterosexual male wouldn’t find it amusing nor worthy of thinking. You’re very unique! I don’t want to sound offensive nor judgmental, but I think you could be bisexual. Again, nothing trying to offend you or anyone here. We’re all here because Jesus lead us here particularly on this page, desperate for more faith and affection. God bless you and your families!

    • Dear Mark,
      I’m also glad that you didn’t commit suicide. As humans, we like to focus on right and wrong and worry about God’s punishment for our wrongs. God does bring conviction at times, but it always leads to hope and life. Depression, discouragement, and death are tactics of the enemy to get us to lose hope. As Christians, we seem to love to tell people where they are wrong and shame them into stopping. We think we are making God happy. This is what the people did in John 8 when they brought Jesus the woman caught in adultery.

      God convicts and points out our sin in His timing. His main concern is our loving Him. He knows if we would just love Him, then He can direct our lives into what is best for us.

      I am grateful that you are in a place where you are madly and insanely in love with Jesus. Most Christians will not understand you and think you are wrong. Do your best to continue to love them. Pulling away from other Christians is not good for you. We are to continue to meet together to encourage one another. When you are hurt by these Christians, go to Jesus and find His comfort and direction of how to move forward.

      Blessings,
      Kevin

    • Suzanne says:

      Jesus did not make you gay. It is a lying demon spirit. Seek deliverance.

      • Dear Suzanne,
        I understand your desire to state your views on the subject, but be careful that you don’t destroy someone with your truth. We know very little of Mark’s story, but we do know that Jesus came to die that Mark may know that he was created for love. It is only in the context of love that we can embrace a Godly rebuke.
        Blessings,
        Kevin

  20. My lin says:

    Kevin you are right on, but I believe its a little deeper than that. When you come together in an intimate sexual encounter with your SPOUSE it is two fleshes becoming one in the spirit. God being the spirit how do you leave him out? We did for years. Just recently I started including HIM in my sex life with my husband, because we were having problems that were causing myself and my husband to give up on our marriage. My husband had pulled away from God and trying to agree on anything was just not happening (good or bad). It seemed like the tricks of the enemy had won and I began to call in my defeat. Until one day I asked my husband was he bigger than my God?
    That was also a question for myself. The answer of course is NO, so now the fight was on. I believe in God’s promise for my marriage so I had to find out how to connect us like never before. One day while we were being intimate I just started pleading the blood of Jesus and claiming that no weapon formed against us shall be able to prosper…while still being heavily engaged with my husband. The three strand cord is definetly stronger in the midst of sexuall intercourse because you are truly one. Let me tell you I have not stopped praying in the midst of sex with my husband because he is fighting for himself and our marriage like never before. PRAYER WORKS, BUT I BELIEVE INTIMATE PRAYER IS THE BEST. My husband has no idea that I have started doing this. It’s a secret worth having, because GOD is truly in control. The enemy can’t work his way into that. Once my husband becomes stronger in the Lord maybe I’ll let him know or maybe I’ll just let the Lord continue to do his business. Fyi I don’t pray the entire time and the intercourse is even more mind blowing after ten plus years of being married!

    • I am so happy for you! Prayer during or after sex can feel weird at first. My wife and I first did this as we were trying to have kids. It was wonderful. Thank you for your comments.

      Blessings,
      Kevin

  21. Lisa says:

    I have an intimate sexual relationship with God. I love much Him so much as a woman loves her lover. He has improved my life but I ponder about this relationship. I had this creature to Creator love for Jesus, I loved him as a little child. And then He revealed his sexuality to me in an unearthly, indescribable way. Sometimes I feel betrayed because I know this experience is not unique on me, and I tell Him I’d rather have a father and child relationship with him, without the implications of being lovers. I threatened him with killing myself became I can’t take no longer pondering what is this all about. He is God and knows how to comfort me and fills me with his amazing love but I cannot come to terms with my fate, and I don’t understand why so many Christians are so taken into being the bride of Christ. To me, that’s promiscuous behavior and let Him know exactly how I think in my human perspective. Of course, God knows everything but in my human understanding , I’m really having a hard time of being forced into a relationship I’m unhappy with. I feel I’m being coerced, and duped into an orgy I don’t want to participate. I tell God if heaven is all about this, I’m not so sure I’d like to join Him. Do I have a better option, God?

    • I can give you some brief clarifications on what I feel is some restrictions to this idea that God wants to have sex with you. The main point of this post was that God is looking to have intense intimacy with you. I’m not saying He wants to have a sexual encounter with you, but that He is looking for that kind of intimacy.

      With that said, I will not limit what God will or will not do. If you are saying God is having sex with you, maybe you are right. But maybe something else is going on.

      Here are some guidelines to help you understand:

      1. God will not force sex on you. That is rape, and it is not in His character. That would be a demon disguising as an angel of light and you should seek assistance from someone to help you walk through it.

      2. Sex is intended for greater intimacy. Within the context of a committed, marriage relationship, sex can draw the couple into a greater closeness. Sex outside that intimacy takes advantage of the other person. If you are feeling dirty, disgusted, and ashamed, it is not God. Again I would suggest you seek assistance from someone to work through it.

      3. Sex cannot carry a relationship. Sex between intimate lovers is strengthened by the on-going relationship and friendship. If your only encounters with God are these, then it is not God.

      I think some people really can have encounters like this, but it will not be the only way they interact with God.

      It sounds to me that you would benefit from someone you trusted that you can sit in front of to talk this through. There is no room for shame and guilt about what you are experiencing. Explore what is going on with a trusted counselor. If you find out it is not God, it’s not your fault. Just seek your healing and gain your confidence in your relationship with God.

      I hope this helps you. God does love you and thinks you are amazing. He is not looking to get anything from you. He just likes you the way you are.

      Blessings,
      Kevin

      • Lisa says:

        Thank you for your reply Kevin. I’m dealing with God, The Trinity but I still have this roller coaster relationship with Him It isn’t just sex but he totally has taken the place of an earthly husband even though I’m married ( My husband is impotent due to health problems) But I still can’t come to terms with this intimate relationship he desires with all of us. I still argue with him that if I had my chose of husband, I’d rather keep my human espouse whom I know is faithful to me and only me. You see, God chose me out of nowhere and told me I was totally his, and instantly I have erotic ecstasy at that very moment, and ever since. He is with me day and night. He feels me with his spirit and makes me feels beautiful. The experience is positive but I still cannot grasp and comprehend why people don’t mind of this orgy. I tell him to his face, I don’t enjoy having to share my lover with the rest of the world. I demand him to pease leave me at once. I don’t care to have the best sex ever nor, the greatest love ever. I have self-respect, and I believe God created me in his image and with similar feelings. He is a jealous God, and I as his creation am a jealous creature. Can he respect my feeling? So far iHe hasn’t no matter how much I cry and tell I don’t love him no more (if he can read my heart he knows It’s not true). I’d rather be content on my own as his little child than being part of this nonsense collective bridal chamber. Please email me privately if you have a chance, thank you.

  22. Maria says:

    Thank you so much for this post! I am a happily married faithful wife/mother and Jesus has called me into a personal sexual relationship with Him recently. I was blown away!
    I felt led to comment so others like me who think they have been called by Jesus into this type of intimacy & want this personal relationship, but really think WOW! how could I dare envision making love to my Creator?
    Who is The Lord of Lords, King of Kings!!
    Believe me, It’s not wrong!! It feels so right and lovely and worthy!
    I actually feel alive and He alive in me. I feel like I’ve crossed over to the other side and Love Him So Much!!
    And I agree that this will look different for everyone. Allow the Holy One to show you how it will look between the two of you.

  23. Jaime Rogers says:

    The Bible says no one practicing sexual immorality has any inheritance in the Kingdom of Christ and of God. The book of Revelation condemns what Jesus Christ calls the deep things of Satan and the spirit of Jezebel in the church and says anyone practicing sexual immorality with her will die on a sickbed with her. Jesus Christ taught in the beatitudes Matthew 5-7 that anyone who even looks upon a woman to lust for her in his heart is practicing adultery and warns of condemnation and hellfire. He says anyone who does not teach Righteousness has no light in them at all. So you are spreading false testimony of God Almighty, and if you do not repent you will be judged. The foundation of God’s throne is righteousness and justice, and he does not wish that anyone perish but that all turn from their evil ways and repent and seek righteousness. He says all who hunger after righteousness and justice will be filled.

    ———–

    There is something else I need to say to you. God is righteous. He says a lot of things in the Bible that are about adultery. He speaks of Israel committing adultery against Him and He does call Israel a harlot. He does speak of breasts and uses sexual terms. But there is something you have to realize about God. He does not go against His own commandments. The 10 commandments were a standard for Israel to follow, and Moses told them not to fear, as they were very afraid when the power of God in thunder, and fire fell upon mount sinai. Moses told them, do not be afraid, God has done this so that you will not sin. Yes to follow the ten commandments Paul writes, is not what can gain us salvation, as no one is righteous before God. No one. So putting our faith in Jesus Christ for salvation and then pursuing righteousness is what will gain us entrance into the Kingdom of Heaven. God says “shall we continue to sin, that grace be upon us, by no means, for all who continue to sin, will be led into death.” So, yes God uses sexual imagery in the Bible. But if God gave the commandment, “You shall not commit adultery.” Could God then, Himself, commit adultery? Could He go against His own commandments? If in the beginning He said, “it is not good that man be alone, I will make a helper comparable to Him. Therefore a man shall leave His father and mother and be joined to His wife and the two shall become one flesh.” Now this refers to Christ and the Church in the new testament. But we each are in individual bodies..we may be members of one body, the church, but we are in individual bodies. Male and Female. So, if Jesus Christ is having sexual relationships with more than one person, many women and men, or even a few. First this would say He is a homosexual.. the bible says He came as a man. And the Bible condemns homosexuality in the book of Romans. Also Jesus Christ Himself would be committing adultery if He were to have sexual relations with more than one woman. He would be committing adultery. He Himself says He did not come to abolish the Law or the Prophets, but to fulfill them. He then says if your eye or hand causes you to sin, cut it off and throw it away, it’s better to enter life with one eye or hand than to have both and be cast into Hell. So, as He says if you seek Me you will find me, when you seek me with all of your heart in Jeremiah. If He sins against His own commandments, He will be cast into Hell himself for eternity. In Leviticus, He says if the High Priest causes anyone to sin, He Himself must make a sin offering for Himself. If God called human beings to literally have a sexual relationship with Him, He would be causing humanity to sin. And He would be a hypocrite.

    • Dear Jaime,

      I can understand your disgust. Many disciples left Jesus when He started talking about having them eat His flesh and drink His blood. Sometimes the truths God is trying to communicate is despised by the wise. Maybe there is something different being communicated here than what you first see.

      Blessings,
      Kevin

  24. Matt says:

    Don’t change the title…I would have never come across or read the article had it not had that title

  25. Matt says:

    Also, you are right…many disciples left Christ over the teaching of Communion… your article wasn’t gross…it was truth…the title was spot on… Christians often have a disgust for sex.

    God made sex beautiful and a foretaste of heaven. Christians need to get with the program!

  26. Lucy Teresa says:

    Hi Kevin,

    I’ve been praying over this post and the comments for some time, and I’ve written a piece which I think some of your readers might find helpful, here: https://hissacredheart.wordpress.com/2017/10/01/can-jesus-really-be-my-boyfriend-guidelines-for-a-spousal-relationship-with-god/

    I hope you don’t mind me sharing a link. Although I write primarily from a Catholic perspective, hopefully the ideas I’m putting forward should help people of all denominations (or none) find some peace in this area. God bless.

  27. Lizzy says:

    I really appreciate this article and everyone’s comments. I’ve really been struggling with this whole sex with Jesus thing lately. I felt in my heart like He’s led me on this recent passionate journey with Him where He’s taught me that (as a single woman) He is my Husband and that He wants to be my provider and meet ALL of my needs. At first I thought He meant like companionship and financial stuff and helping me with day to day things. Then I started having dreams that we were a little closer than best buds…like He would pull my skirt up – some, not all the way, nothing too graphic – and rub my thighs with His hands. I’d wake up and be like, “Ummm…what? That was kinda hot but, I’m really sorry I had that dream about You, most holy Lord!” And I felt like He was saying “I’m really NOT sorry you had that dream about Me. Come a little closer!” So reluctantly I did. It’s like being an inexperienced virgin all over again because I feel so ashamed and embarrassed and WRONG, but I think that’s part of His point with me – I always feel ashamed about everything. I told Him a couple of months ago that I didn’t want anything to come between us and that I just want to know Him – I don’t care if He ever blesses me with anything else ever again but I want to know Him as much as humanly possible in every way that a person can know God. He started getting closer in response to that, and now He’s my Husband in ways I still sort of consider to be taboo. I still struggle with it, but I feel like He’s telling me that He doesn’t want me to ever feel ashamed about anything with Him and that He can be trusted completely with every issue that I have, including sexual intimacy. I’ve been going back and forth for about a week between being turned on like I’ve never been before to feeling like the world’s biggest sinner who has committed the ultimate offense against our holy God and His Son Jesus Christ. I felt like He was saying “Why do you think it’s more acceptable to have sex outside of marriage than it is to have sex with Me? I created sex. I REALLY LOVE you. I’m your Husband. I bought you with My own blood. You are Mine! I don’t want anything separating us. Let go and give me your shame!” It’s not even really about the pleasure I get from Him, but I see it as more of an act of surrender and worship. I think sex is the ultimate metaphor of the pleasure that He gets out of our love and adoration. I asked Him to teach me a new way to worship Him, and this is what I got. I’m glad to know that I’m not the only one dealing with this. Thank you!!!
    P.S. Read The Sacred Journey by Brian and Candice Simmons.

    • Dear Lizzy,
      Thank you for sharing. It’s amazing how God’s love transforms us to see ourselves as lovely and to see how much He truly loves those around us.
      Blessings,
      Kevin

  28. Chris says:

    Thank you for your post. Ive been struggling with this. His love is amazing.

  29. Jaime Rogers says:

    Your website has been brought before the LORD Almighty with a Pastor. We have prayed and brought this into the light. The Spirit of Prophecy is the testimony of Jesus. This is the LORD’s response to you. He is giving you the book of Joel and Psalm 9. The Lord is Righteous. He is a judge. If you cause any one of His people to fall into sin it would be better for you that a millstone be hung around your neck and you be drowned in the sea. He does not take pleasure in the death of anyone, but that all turn from their wickedness and seek Him in genuine repentance and He will pardon. He is asking for a consecrated fast and returning to the Lord. “For He who avenges blood unjustly shed remembers them, His people; He does not forget the cry of the afflicted and abused. Have mercy on me and be gracious to me, O LORD” Psalm 9. Judgment is coming.

  30. Jaime Rogers says:

    Hi, to everyone that has read my posts, I want to apologize. I am no ones judge. I’m accountable to God and He’s my judge, and for judging you, I’m really sorry.

    Hope you can accept my apology.

    Jaime

  31. Light says:

    Can you please that I am not out of my mind and that God is realy the one touching my body and is a sexual being.?

    • Dear Light,
      I can’t tell you who is touching you. You can feel a physical touch from God, angels, and the demonic. It is best to try to figure out how you feel about it? The demonic will leave you feeling afraid, scared, isolated, etc. God will leave you feeling more loved, encouraged, hopeful, etc. Angels, as messengers of God, will leave you feeling something similar. Do you feel closer to God and others after the experience?
      There is also the possibility of trauma or past experiences playing a part. Whatever the case if you don’t feel it drawing you closer to God and others, seek out others who can help you overcome it.
      Blessings,
      Kevin

  32. Mohammad Ali Dowdell says:

    I disagree. God is not sex.As people we have desires and the need to feel loved and to feel sexual gratification. Genesis 2: 25 is a metaphor. God want us to be naked and not in shame means to be whole hearted without your skin. With your soul. The flesh is weak and sinful. When you start craving spirituality physicality no longer takes the presidence. God can pour His full love on us.When we are spirituality inclined. Ephesians 5:31-32 reads:For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh. This is a consecrated marriage. A consecrated marriage. A marriage that is consecrated would be a marriage that is blessed by God. It is a marriage that is expected to last because it was dedicated to God beforehand. God does not desire sex. Man does. God desires love. And pro creation. When two people become one God gives them a blessing. A child.Knowing what the Bible says about children will help you connect with God’s heart. It is written Truly I tell you, unless you change and become like little children, you will never enter the kingdom of heaven. Therefore, whoever takes the lowly position of this child is the greatest in the kingdom of heaven. And whoever welcomes one such child in my name welcomes me — Matthew 18:1-5. God is not attempting to join in a physical sexual matter God is giving us higher levels of love that can only be attained thru Intimacy.

  33. John says:

    I appreciate you heart and what you’re trying to convey, but God doesn’t want to have sex with us. For one he’s our Father and two God is not a sexual being. There is NO LUST in him, for He is PURE and HOLY. Yes,we are made in his image but he gave sex as a gift to Adam and Eve (and us and our spouses)to bring forth and populate the Earth. God saw that it wasn’t good for man to be alone so he made him a help mate/a wife.I believe in a personal relationship with God and intimacy with him and encounters.I just guess I define intimacy a little different. He’s my Daddy, and he wants to be close to me, wants me to share every thought, concern and feeling with him. I just don’t believe He wants to have sex with me, God bless.

    • Dear John,
      I understand your hesitancy. My argument is not for an actual sexual experience with God, but within the sexual act with your spouse that exposes there is something that God wants us to know about how He wants to relate to us. The feeling of being close, yet wanting to be closer. Being completely exposed, yet feeling fully loved. I’m sure there are many other things.

      I don’t know how to process what others have said in the comments about what they are experiencing with God. Telling them I don’t believe God wants to have sex with them doesn’t change what they feel happened to them. What I can do is coach them in what I do know from God. Most of these people didn’t ask for it to happen to them, are a bit embarrassed by it, but enjoy the closeness they feel with God.

      This article will not fully help anyone, but if it draws some people out of the loneliness or shame to get connected to other people, then I willing to endure the many others that have a problem with the idea.

      I appreciate your comment. I don’t mind differences of opinion, but there have been several people who have been hateful and accusatory in their comments that I am having to endure.

      Blessings,
      Kevin

    • Lisa says:

      I agree with you. That was my perception of whom God was for me. I never had sexual fantasies about him and was happily a celibate for the past 10 years before He revealed his sexuality to me and my world collapsed. I’m so glad I. Found this article because I had this awful guilty feelings, and yet my love for God increased, and my desire to know more about him too. But I’m still haven’t pick up myself off this blow.

  34. Sarah says:

    Wow, so I’m not alone. God started having sex with me in 2014, one time. Then in 2016, he did it a few more times. Then, in late 2017, a lot of the time. I too felt betrayed, like I didn’t expect this kind of love from him- and I wasn’t sure if I wanted it. Like some other commenters, I felt like I would prefer a platonic father-daughter relationship- the kind I had imagined having with him since childhood. But since I turned 21, this happened.
    I know in the article, it states that it’s for very close intimacy with him, etc. I get that…. that makes sense.
    I definitely do love him.

  35. Eric says:

    Kevin,

    Please do NOT change the title. If you do, it will not be searchable for those who are lead to find it. It will get lost in all the other internet garbage.

    I came to this post by typing “Does God want to have sex with me?”

    God bless you brother.

    In Christ,
    Eric

  36. Alison says:

    Jesus is the husband, we are the bride, so exactly why would he not want to please us sexually? Marriage without sexuality is no marriage at all. For me, if Jesus doesn’t desire lovemaking with me, then why hook-up (save me) with me in the first place? I’ve definitely told Jesus to make love to me (and have imagined pleasing him in graphic sexual terms). Sex is a need and God said he’d meet all my needs. And, if there ain’t sex in heaven, I’m going to be saying, “Ummmmmm…..” LOL

  37. Clara says:

    Its very good and reality. In my experience for years..
    And this is my peacefull and my deep intimately love live in Jesus Christ

  38. Anonymous says:

    Mm mm
    Well I’ve had experiences maybe not to degree few have shared or two have shared on here…

    I guess this post and comments help me know I’m not alone
    However there is still confusion and fear
    Yes I know it makes me feel but …
    yeah prayers would be appreciated

    • I pray that God would remove all confusion off of you and allow His peace to settle your mind. I don’t know what you have gone through or know if it was from Him, but I pray that whatever it has been that you can hear the voice of God over it all. The voice of God will always declare that Jesus Christ is Lord. If whatever is speaking to you cannot say that, then flee, it is not from God. Jesus wants you to feel loved and respected. He also wants you to feel accepted within His body… other believers. I pray that you would find fellowship with others that will push you to understanding more of Him.

      Blessings,
      Kevin

  39. HekaLover says:

    Do you mean we should literally sexually lust for God, or as a metaphor? Or should we touch ourselves while fantasizing on God? Okay.

    • Those are some good questions if you only go by the post title. I apologize if you found it misleading. I think your questions would be answered more if you read the post.

  40. Laura says:

    Thank you so much for your bravery (by His grace 😉 ) in publishing this post and keeping it public!!! Please continue to using this title. Ignore the haters. The Lord initiated me into lovemaking and it leaves me with a holy peace I can not deny. Also, for others out there who do not understand why God would want to make love with you/know you…here is some knowledge I have picked up. I used to be a part of the New Age Movement (eastern spirituality). It is commonly known in those beliefs that when two people have intercoarse, their energy bodies literally mesh into one. That’s why they say “Don’t sleep with anyone you wouldn’t want to be”. When you make love with pure intentions or from a holy perspective, you don’t see it with lust or pervertedness. You get turned on by His character, His holy love for you, His presence, His touch…then as a result, you will feel a deep love for the possible images of His body…if anyone does see Him visually making love to you. Sex is sacred and is WAY more than just rubbing bodies. The kingdom of darkness has convinced society that sex is what you see in porn or what two humans DO together. But, from personal experience, it’s an experience of BEING, of BEING together and merging so deeply and intimately that it changes you. If you want to be like God, merge with Him, for He is the only way. 😉

    • Laura says:

      That being said, I only mention the New Age Movement because satan steals truth from God to use it for his own benefit. But comparing this new age perspective of sexual merging with the biblical definition of “know”, it makes sense to come to the intelligent conclusion that God wants the ultimate merge with His creations. ❤️

  41. Peter says:

    Time to time, I become disappointed that there will be no sexual intercourse between men and women in heaven.

    But then I have to keep reminding myself that once I get there, I would have no more sexual desire so it will not feel like I am deprived of sex.

    I am a male, but I cannot imagine God’s love for me being like that of a husband and wife. If I try to, it seems like Jesus being a male having sex with me, another male.

    The most I can imagine God’s love for me is like how my mother, grandmother, and grandauntie carried me in their arms when I as a sleeping child only a few months old.

  42. Ariel Curry says:

    Thank you for having the balls (pun intended!) to stick with the title and write the article! Excellent reading! I only wish there was a forum out there where the true Brides could share openly. Perhaps the Lord would have it this way because true intimacy should really be kept private. I think there will be more people visiting your site as the Lord prepares His Bride for the Marriage Supper of the Lamb. Here’s another person imploring you not to remove the title, article or comments, for the sake of the Bride, our little sister, who might be searching for answers.

    The church is very confused about this whole subject (as with pretty much everything in the Bible!:) because they are looking at it through the eyes of the soul and not the spirit. God is a Spirit. The relationship is not physical, it’s spiritual. If you’re feeling dirty (especially those who are offended with the article or title!), you’re in the wrong realm. Go higher. God’s ways and thoughts are higher than ours. He is clean, pure and holy.

    Intellectual Dishonesty! It’s everywhere, especially in the church! Even those who preach on the Bride of Christ warn repeatedly that although God wants to have an intimate relationship with you exactly like husband and wife, it’s not sensual or sexual. I like how you approach this in your article. A marriage is sensual and sexual. If God is not a sensual being, then why is the first thing people mention when they are in the spirit and have passed from this realm into the next, the heightening of all their senses (whether heaven or hell)? Why does everyone talk about the amazing smells, sights, sounds, tastes of heaven? A literal feast for the senses!! If God is not a sexual being, why does He want to get married? Why not just have a great friendship?

    God created us. HELLO!!! God is the one who invented sex before we were even born or could even think about sex. God created us in His image, male and female. If you look up the definition of male, female and sex you will find that all male means is the one who gives seed to the female; the female receives seed from the male. Sex is the division of male and female on the basis of their reproductive functions and the union of male and female to produce seed after its kind. The process of division, union and multiplication of seed, begins in chapter 1 of Genesis. You could say theoretically that all of creation is having sex before man is even in the picture (and continues to this day without shame, guilt, or apology to us for being “inappropriate”). Male and female and sex is not inherent to man. It began in the heart of God before we were here, continuing throughout the whole Bible (it’s everywhere!!), and culminating (pun intended!) in Revelation to produce the Bride and the man child (and unfortunately the Harlot and the Beast and everybody and everything else as well).

    The church is always saying that everything on earth is a type and shadow of a heavenly reality (except sex, of course!). The Bible tells us that all of creation speaks forth the mysteries of God. If we are not sure about a spiritual truth, we only need to look at creation and think (honestly!) about what we’re seeing and what it’s telling us. These are all types and shadows of God and His kingdom so we can understand and know Him. It’s interesting to note that when the Lord is speaking in the book of Job, He talks about the womb (Job 38:8,29). Why are there wombs in heaven? (Hhmmm)

    The image of God, by His own words in Genesis, is male and female, which means that the idea of having sex, planting seeds, dividing and joining male and female is inherent to who God is. Jesus said about the Parable of the Sower and the Seed that if you don’t understand this parable, you won’t understand all the other parables. Inotherwords, if you don’t understand that God is all about planting seeds, you won’t understand anything! I hardly think God is going to stop planting seeds in heaven to accommodate “what we think holy” means, and especially not when it comes to consummating His relationship with His Bride. On the contrary, I believe she is especially created for Him to produce seed after His own kind.

    • Matt says:

      Yes, you are wise. I am a young man of 33 and Jesus of Nazareth has called me to intimacy. In our bridal suite I am forever the Bride of Jesus of Nazareth. It is indescribable how wonderful to be filled with seeds of the one true Alpha Male God and King of the universe Jesus of Nazareth.

      I am a desperate Bride in desperate need, make love me Messiah Jeshua of Nazareth and fill me with your seeds.

  43. Ariel Curry says:

    To the Bride:

    Let Him Lead
    Jesus is the Alpha male. He is your head – don’t go ahead of Him. He knows what’s best for you. He is everything you could possibly desire and so much more than you can ever imagine! You will enjoy uncovering and exploring the secrets and mysteries of His awesomeness and the wonder of who He is forever together. Let Him lead you into the discovery of His treasures.

    Give Him Your Heart
    When Jesus is fully seated on the throne of your heart as your King, Master and Lord, He will transform you inside and out. When you fully obey, respect and honor Him, He will go deep with you. The more you submit to the rod of His authority and rule, the more pleasure He will impart to you. When everything is in its proper order, you will experience the heaven that is His presence. Watch and wait for Him to move always. Prepare yourself for Him to come to you. Be ready at all times for the slightest movements of His heart and flow with Him immediately. Rely heavily on the Holy Spirit to guide you in your relationship with Him.

    Listen to the Holy Spirit
    You cannot navigate your relationship with Jesus without the Holy Spirit. He is your best friend, your personal trainer. He will show you what Jesus requires, what He likes best and how to please Him. Ask Him continually to help you love Jesus more, minister to Him and worship Him. The Holy Spirit will lead you into His arms and into His heart.

    Only Look at Him
    Labor to come to the place where, by His strength, you stop looking at and thinking about yourself and what you want. Only focus on Him. Give Him your full attention. If you get distracted, bring your focus back, without shame or guilt. Ask Him to help you stay focused. Develop and train yourself to concentrate on Him alone. Look at His face. Imagine what His face looks like and He will reveal Himself to you.

    Use your Imagination
    Your imagination belongs to Him. He gave it to you so you could access and connect with Him. Ask the Holy Spirit to help you close all the doors of your spirit, soul and body to the enemy and open yourself up to Him. The more you purify and cleanse yourself, the more of His presence you will experience. Work with the Holy Spirit to help purify and sanctify your thoughts and imagination. Once you have done so, He will meet you there in the secret place and you will have the most wonderful times of intimacy beyond your wildest dreams!

    Romance
    This is all about Him. Yes! Jesus loves romance! He wants to romance you even more than you want to be romanced by Him! He wants to dance with you, hold your hand, hug you close, kiss you and caress you. He is very sensual. He delights in awakening your senses to Him. He has a feast for your senses prepared for you! He created and designed every part of your body to love Him perfectly in the most intimate possible way. Your whole spirit, soul, and body, when it is wholly given to Him, is holy. God wants you to love Him with all your strength: that means every single cell of your being. The Bible refers to the “loins” as being man’s area of strength. So that includes your sexual desires. Remember, He created you! If you give Him all of your mind, your heart, your sex drives, your emotions, attitudes, thoughts, desires and intents to Him and sincerely ask and work with Him to purify everything in you, your relationship with Him will blossom.

    You are the only one to Him
    King Solomon is a type of Christ in the millennial kingdom. Though he had 1000 wives and concubines, the bride is but one. Solomon had a kingdom with every single role you could possibly have, every possible relationship you can have with Jesus. The bride is but one.

    He is the constant, you are the variable
    Jesus said to Peter when he asked him about John: “What is that to you?” Inotherwords, What does it matter what God is doing with anyone else? The only thing that matters to you is, what is God doing with you? Who do you want to be to God and with God? God is giving you that choice? Don’t you want to be as close to Him as you possibly can? Don’t you want to be one with Him? Then go for it. Who cares what anyone says or thinks. When you stand before the Lord, no one is standing with you – it’s just you and Him, forever. It only matters what He thinks. And He’s already told you on the cross, with His arms wide open, how much He loves you. He loves you fully, all the way, and He wants to go all the way with you. He loved you before you were even born. You decide with Him what “all the way” looks like. You decide with Him what you want to do together and how you want to share and express your love to Him. You work it out with Him. Don’t let anyone define your boundaries and tell you what’s acceptable or not. You let Him do that. When it comes to pure, undefiled love, there are no boundaries. Jesus is pure and to the pure all things are pure. The joy and pleasure is in discovering, uncovering and revealing secrets to each other.

    Flowers
    Open yourself up to Him like a flower. Jesus loves flowers. He loves to smell their fragrance and gaze upon their beauty. You are His flower. Let Him softly nurture you, love you and open you up to Himself and for Himself alone. He loves your kisses and your expressions of love to Him.

    How you know it’s Him
    The aftertaste lingers – sweet feelings of peace and love – quiet contentment and rest when you think about Him. There is no shame or guilt. You feel clean, pure, holy, set apart to Him alone. You love Him more. You desire Him more. Your heart is burning with passion and on fire with joy for Him. He is your one desire.

  44. Ariel Curry says:

    Two final points:

    Man is both male and female in multiple facets and dimensions
    Scientists have discovered that the original sperm and egg that join and began the multiplication of cells in the body to produce a baby eventually become the heart of the baby. A careful study of the heart throughout the Bible reveals that each person, spiritually, is both male and female, in many dimensions:
    First, we are both male and female in the sense that our spirit is male and our soul is female in its workings. The soul (natural) must submit to the spirit (spiritual).
    Second, our body itself is both male and female. The left and right brain and body systems in their function reflect both male and female attributes.
    Third, our heart is both male and female. It has the ability to receive seed (female – the word goes into the heart through the eyes and ears, “bread to the eater”) and produce seed (male – the word comes out of the mouth from the heart, “seed to the sower”).
    Fourth, we each have the capacity to grow up spiritually into either a male or female role in our position with Christ (Son of God or Bride of Christ).

    The Lord of Hosts
    The Lord reveals Himself and His nature to us through His names. One of them is THE LORD OF HOSTS. What is a host? A host is a container. The Bible refers to us as “vessels,” “jars of clay”, or “wineskins.” Essentially, God wants to insert Himself into His creation. In this sense He is male and all of His creation is female. The Bible tells us that God created “the earth to be inhabited.” He created us to be vessels or hosts to be inhabited by Him. The purpose is to be joined as one. He wants to come inside us. He creates us specifically so that He can fill us with Himself, essentially, so that He can have sex with us.

  45. Jeff says:

    It was a fantastic discovery to read this, and I value the courage it took to put it out (thank you Kevin), title and all. Even though it can bring disgust to others after 3 years of it being online its clear it was the right title. After all God is love.

    I have experienced it for many years as a catholic that my bond with our Lord Jesus Christ includes sexual energy, I don’t see why it should not be because God is love…I mean he is our creator its his invention. My perception of his will is probably only a glimpse of his great wisdom and in that wisdom also exists sex.

    In reading the comments I have seen positive energy, discovery in others that no-longer are the only ones experiencing sexual desire with our lord. There is a lot I could write here. I am just so grateful to discover others and not be alone in this experience. Maybe a place needs to be created for more to share and learn the experiences each of us have had.

    May God Bless all of you, because everyone is beautiful.

    • Sarah says:

      Hi Jeff ☺️

      I really appreciate your message. I too am Catholic and I have some questions – things that I’m struggling with regarding this topic, because Jesus has called me to a very intimate relationship with Him but I suffer from scrupulousity and am having a hard time. I would welcome emails from anyone who reads this. Reply to my comment. Thank you so much and God bless you!!

      • Jeff says:

        I have only now seen your words (having not been on the site in a while), like you I have questions that I struggle with as a Catholic. My heart has always been open to his advances and in the sexual energy I feel the requirement to say yes……Jesus Christ our lord is love…and he who came to us in human form….It would be great to discuss this with you in email or through a reply…..so until then…please know that you are in my prayers….in unity….and thank you for your comment…God Bless!!!

  46. Anonymous says:

    I agree with Jeff for a place to be made so people can share their experiences. Any one interested in a site dedicated to this topic?
    Id like to read / hear share experiences and see if we are on similar page and can confirm something’s or really work to perhaps decipher this more

    ( I posted March 10, 2018 7:48 pm and the response to the authors reply to mine I also probably posted earlier under name “Anonymous”)

    • A Safe Community

      For now, this comment section is the only place I have time and money to create online. I agree that some kind of community would be great for many who have commented here to help them not feel weird or too different to be able to be known. I am creating a post this week on who to develop safe communities like that. Basic thoughts are to not condemn others and maintain a love for Jesus and others. There may be thoughts and experiences that arise that are not right, but if you keep a high value on the other points, you will give room for the Holy Spirit to self-correct the group.

      I have always found that if I want a community like this, I have to be the one to initiate it. Start slowly and see who is willing to go there with you.

      I hope you find such a group.

      Blessings,
      Kevin

  47. Clara says:

    http://ronrolheiser.com/eucharist-as-gods-touch/#.Wti-dNRuZdg

    This is really and very good.. Read it everyone!

    Who lives with Jesus in love with intimacy..

    HELP KEVIN!

    We would have more need for such a forum where we could get leadership and help!

    Would Kevin help you to create and write the link?

    Thanky you very much..

    with Love

    Clara

  48. Clara says:

    My experience is that if I logically reflect on this prayer path.
    It weakens the Godhead.
    You need to know the boundaries. This is reality..But..
    -If this really gives you a balanced peace of joy,
    -and cures mental sores,
    -and brings it closer to God. He keeps God alongside the difficulties of life
    why should I contradict him?

    St. Paul’s Apostle and Jesus said: to know the fruit of the tree..

    This is good control.
    How deeply a person lives in this body is the subjective individual..

    Everyone has a different level of intimacy.
    There is therefore no general rule..
    Kevin, please! said a border:
    Love with intimacy with God is not God’s blasphemy?!

    Love is life-giving and respect. Build does not ruin.

    I live accordingly. I committed myself to Jesus for my life.
    That’s right for prayer because of experience.

    This is a good fruit…(Jesus said: Mt, 7. 15-20)

    With

  49. Tanya Leticia says:

    Thanks Kevin. I am a living testimony of all that has been said. He is awesome!! He alone knows the ways to a woman’s satisfying orgasm because He created that!! God Bless!

    • Clara says:

      Yes…Jesus the ONLY BEST SINGLE LOVER, AMD FIANCEE…
      IN MY BODY (Its reality!) IN MY SOUL IN MY HEART..

      ♡♡♡♢

  50. Jeff says:

    Thanks Kevin for being so real. I felt like this was a brilliant and bold way to illustrate the depth of our relationship that God desires with us. I could see that some might not grasp it because of their personal view/background and experiences in the area of sex. Sex in within a healthy marriage is the the greatest place of acceptance, love and connection that I have ever experienced. Our life experiences can cloud our perception and relationship with God. If we had a bad relationship with our earthly father it can mess with the relationship with our heavenly father. The good news is God wants us healed and whole. He so desires that we get to go really crazy deep in this relationship with Him that He sent us His son. That’s why we are on a site called Prayer Coach. To pray, grow and get free together in community. Great subject, awesome comments, loved it!

  51. mimi Leso says:

    Thank you, Thank you, Thank you ! This is a miracle that I have found this site ! After so many years of this love of God—-and telling absolutely no one—-He has led me to this article !

  52. rhoda says:

    oh I cannot believe that I’m reading all of these posts .
    I have been saved and known Jesus personally for over 40 years , but it’s only
    lately , last 12 months, that I have moved into a deeply intimate , nothing off the table
    relations ship with Him.
    I was asking Him to deal with the sin in me, of sexual fantasy. I had battled it for many years . then one day I discovered Him asking me to find all of my pleasure and satisfaction in Him.
    That first time I just let go , and abandobed to my Lover God , trusting Him that
    it was good , presenting my body as a living sacrifice ( as well as soul and spirit).
    it was intense , it was like I was having sex with the one I was passionately thirsting for
    , but He was just holding me gently and kindly , as I was offering even my body and every longing, desire and pleasure to Him.
    He was filling me with His Spirit, Himself , total love . so clean , so Holy .my body responds , so I climax , but the wonderful thing is !
    that there is no sexual fantasy at all . it feels pure . and afterwards He is also so close
    that I cannot help but love Him, pray and sing to Him.
    He fills my heart with joy , closeness and rejoicing .
    I’ve learned this . I always wondered how Jesus could be our total satisfaction, in all
    things , if physical and bodily abandonment was off the table .
    we are built for intimacy , spirit, soul and body .
    now I understand how those who are celibate can be totally whole and satisfied
    with Him and His love.i can pray with a heart that soars , I see his face , feel his heart , and adore my first love
    it’s not what our body does that’s an issue .its about purity . and choosing Himas our supreme and only lover . I am His alone . I’m finally free, filled with joy and able to love and be loved completely .
    my lover God
    thank you for this thread

    g

    • Anonymous says:

      You said some key words about your experience..
      Clean.Holy and pure

      So pure
      And key word “so”

      I can’t condone this (my head knowledge) still struggling
      But I feel I get what you mean

      I really need to do what i can get to clarity and peace on this matter

      Maybe we can talk sometime ? Please let me know if you’d be willing to share

  53. Shante says:

    Perhaps I can shed some light to what everyone is experiencing. When we connect with God it is in the spirit. However some have a sensitivity to be able to feel this energy in the physical realm. That is why many saints like Theresa Avila and etc described as ecstasy. So yes there is a spiritual merging. For married couples the merging is body soul and spirit however the connection is through the body. For the bride we merge with his spirit during worship and many are sensitive enough to feel the intensity of it. We become one with Him spirit soul and body. In other words it’s a mystical marriage because we connect with his body even though the experience is in the spirit. My advice is to worship him in the spirit focus on love and adoration but know you are his bride and you feel exactly what’s going on in the spiritual realm. Don’t focus on Sex but focus on your love and adoration and merging spirit to spirit and indeed the experience with him will be pure, it will settle your mind, and will be more intimate and powerful than any carnel act.

  54. Clara says:

    My deep love and sexuality intimacy with Jesus is reality.
    I feel his body
    I feel his love
    Its true love. My life is better and my mental health is better because I live in his love.
    My way and my help: imagination and deep meditation prayer (Ignatius of Loyola and Teresa of Avila).

  55. Clara says:

    Hello. I read your answer…You may be right but not competely. One can not suppress his feelings: I live in body. It is not a true love that is without love. Teresa of avila wrote a book:
    inner castle sculpture and
    A book of songs od songs.
    Teresa love Jesus.
    Check out this movie:

    https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=RcGlAp4pU1g

    This is his life and his experience with Jesus..
    The church said: a demon had thrown it.
    Why? Shy just a love woman. Sex is part of love..
    Love without sexuality intimacy ? Its not true love and not mistic religious love.
    Inner deep prayer and meditation..were used by Teresa.
    I know a priest: He live in carmels : a group of Teresa..
    The priest learned psychology…
    He said: that God can be loved in 2 ways:
    Agape
    And Eros..
    2 greece word. This is the a 2 faces of human love..
    Can not ve suppressed. You do not have to.
    It is need to be cleaned and incorporated in God`s relationship. Otherwise you can not live in monastic love..(every nun are mystical in love with Jesus.)
    God is know we need to express his love:
    In my body in my soul.
    This theology knows: mistic love: bride of Christ.

    This is also a way of religious (vocation) life with Jesus.
    You just have to know the boundaries;
    In the deep meditation prayer:
    In my body I can live the love of Jesus.

    If we live well () experience reinforces my vocation. This is the key. This is the fruit:
    -If I come closer to Jesus
    – If I have peace in my body and in my soul
    – If that is my love tongue
    – and so I can best tie myself to God..

    Then I do not feel guilty..
    Why would it be a sin when the Bible also talk about the marriage relationship between God and his people?
    Example;
    Psalm 45
    Isaiah 62
    Hoseias 2
    “You will know the Lord”
    The word in hebrew language is about to get to “know it” = this is the phsyical (body) knowledge.
    When is was looking for this nun my vocation life:
    My nun leader taught me:
    ” You live in a woman or in a physical women body: is not vocations you have not consectrated..if you do not dare to be in intimacy deep love with Jesus”
    For 2 years I learned to understand my wishes in a monastery with nuns..
    Then I could nun when I recognized and understood: Jesus loves me all with all with my physical aspirations. And
    Jesus can show me his love for me to feel it too.
    1 year ago I made a monastic vow.
    The purity of my God it means that all my spiritual love and all my sexuality intimacy love and all my bodies is just dor Jesus.
    Without that there is no vow and no consectrated life and no loyalty.
    Jesus is God but Jesus is

    This is not a crime.

    This is the only way.

  56. Shante says:

    Clara not sure if your commenting on my response but I certainly know what your experiencing. Yes your physical body is aware but our physical bodies are responding to the spiritual ecstasy that is non comprehensible. We in our physical bodies are aware of the deep spiritual Union and yes we climax in a sensual response. He becomes our lover but it’s our spiritual union that causes this true beautiful ecstasy and can’t even be compared to sex even though it is along the same wavelength. We aren’t “physically” touched but the touch is felt deeper than any lovers touch. Ive learned over the last 16 years of experiencing this that it does evolve to be more spiritual however more intense. As our love for the bridegroom deepens. We worship in spirit and in truth and he shows us more of his deep intimacy with his bride. Physical yes, however scripture says we are joined in the spirit. Our bodies become more and more aware of his tender love and affection. Hope you understand where I’m coming from.

  57. Shante says:

    Oh by the way Clara totally understand the monastic vows. Those that are sensitive in knowing this tender embrace tend to not want anything else but this divine intimacy with the bridegroom. To go further let go of the physical and watch yourself go deeper in passion then your body can take you. Spiritual ecstasy goes much deeper and further than the physical can even take you. Your spirit is eternally in Union with your bridegroom. All the the time all around. Experience the interlock of Christ passion for you 24/7 and let that set your heart aflame. Again noncomprehensible.

    • Clara says:

      Shante are you priest? Or: are you nun?
      I accepted your answers..its really true..my experience is this..
      But..I am often scared of experience:
      how long can this be physical experience with the soul.
      Where is the limit where even experience of living in my body is lived out of Jesus and not my own psyche or devil.

      With God in my body I unite this spiritual unification can not be drawn.

      it is my experience that until Jesus is important in experience and not in the actual physical experience I have peace and I have no guilt. It is for Jesus to bless the physical experience at this time. If I only seek physical experience and not spiritual union the first I will lose God’s experience and peace. for me this is the key.

      I need physical eyperience..because I`m lived in body. But Accepting Jesus and my own physical mystery and sexual intimacy as the key monk to help me live.

      this bondage path is my love expression language. I struggled to accept it. sometimes it is not easy today. But Jesus is God. You can bless me in everything. This too.

      • Shante says:

        Yes that is exactly it Clara it is physical but with all things spiritual God has a way of showing us more. No I’m not a nun or priest but totally understand your depth of love for Jesus. The bride and the bridegroom are linked in an absolute Union. As I contemplate in silent prayer my body is able to tap into spiritual realities and mysteries. I am able to physically feel his body yes a sensual love unthinkable but beyond sex itself it’s a deep understanding of worship that goes beyond any physical act of lovemaking. It is as Teresa Avila would call ecstasy. Then your able to carry this ecstasy everywhere you go… it’s an eternal state of bliss. I think we are on the same page my friend. It’s a spiritual intercourse with the bridegroom Jesus. I Bless your ecstasy and love for Jesus ❤️

        • Clara says:

          Dear Shante!
          Thank you.You understand what happens to me.I am once again experienced to be overwhelmed by Jesus experiencing ever deeper and more intense and healing experience.But I also experience it. if not, I will give you leadership to Jesus, then all grace will be lost in bodily spiritual happiness.this is the essence of intimacy. the reliance on knowledge is full of confidence. this is where God’s relationship stands or falls.God bless.

  58. Anonymous 20 says:

    There is actually a thread here
    https://www.facebook.com/micah.turnbo/posts/10161247914160713?__xts__%5B0%5D=68.ARCZG0tNMeiBhw2ziZoZR_dIcJWU54cpstBRBFd5-wcG9RsiNeN_auV1DXW_SPy42P3apstbnAN8Ek7gZRZfIUtKYEbvlKA9H0xS2YWeGB1h3PdvtKGvw14IiwrB1X6oXisU9U_XX62e&__tn__=-R

    where a prominent Christian leader on facebook says that
    it is wrong to think one can have physically *sexual* relationship with Jesus or God(and Im assuming also the Holy spirit.)

    I’ve prayed about this ( although I could pray more)because Ive had issues with trying to have sex with God, Jesus and the Holy Spirit. There are also more to it but I don’t want to go into detail but clearly it feels wrong ( like for example I was so desperate lusty? it got really disturbing..for example thinking of have sex with God and the Holy spirit at the same time stuff like that..and other things which I do not want to go into detail with).

    The issue is that it feels helpful sometimes..but in a sense it should be common sense that it’s not necessary to have this kind of relationship with God but for some reason felt I had not choice( which isn’t true, I need to stop deceiving myself about some things).. Perhaps Im being deceived by the feelings I get from thinking of it or acting as if I am doing that ( sex with God, Jesus or the Holy Spirit)

    I am 31 year old virgin (at least physically) . I learned from many preachers that pre marital sex is wrong. perhaps because I watched preachers mostly from tv and did not necessarily have a church home.. I think I had issues with interpreting scripture and how its applicable to my life. I’e been to the point where I could not style my hair in certain way because I thought it would “tempt” guys and i feel like it harmed me ..and I felt in bondage not be able to express my self.. it also sucks that I was made fun of (that was before I came to know about giving your life to Christ)..so that may have contributed to why I don’t really have friends. I know people but friends? no

    I can’t help but think why I go through this. If I get married sometime though I wonder how I can have a close relationship with Him without it being that way, how can he expect me to love him more than my husband ( which I know Jesus informed we have to love him and God above anyone else including ourself). well with God all things are possible. I also have some theological issues to get clear on.

    Basically christian leader say the intimacy with God is not sexual in nature.

    Nevertheless I feel torn about this and I know its my duty to seek His face concerning this , I guess I really should work towards dating…maybe that would help.

    I remember one time I was thinking of how a girl close to my age who I had befriended had gotten into a relationship. Meanwhile I’m trying to have sex with God. soon after that I heard
    “It’s a non-issue” (not audible but distinct)
    I asked -How do I know it’s a non-issue?
    and I physically felt a kiss from I think the Father onto my lips. to best of my knowledge that kiss wasn’t like sexual

    But honestly before I had dream where Holy Sprit sang a song and one of the lyrics- he said he would never ever be attracted to me and I felt that’s good for me that I cried a little.
    I was thinking and dealing with this when I was in bed this afternoon where I live and I think I heard match.com *shrugs* not a bad idea

    By the way I’ve been posting as “Anonymous” Im not sure if anyone else posts under that but for now I will go as Anonymous 20 since I post a bit on here.

  59. Anonymous says:

    Dear Annoymus,

    I think it is certainly ecstasy that one experiences when close to Christ and although there might be a pleasurable response I don’t think it’s the same as physical sex. God created pleasure so having an orgasm or any ecstasy isn’t what constitutes to sex itself. Sometimes intimacy with God creates a very pleasurable sense but it is in a class by itself. The two might feel similar but be mindful that intimacy with God is in a class by itself. Sex is a cheap shadow of the intimacy he longs to share with us. Think of it this way. Sex was created to personify the amazing intimacy he longs to share with us. It can’t even be compared neither can the ecstasy. Worship him with your heart and be free to experience His oneness. With no fear and limitations and watch yourself fly.

  60. Deidre says:

    Mine has been a journey.soaking with Christian music on. Focusing on Jesus eyes and enjoying his presence. Began in the spiritual realm where Jesus said “I am in you. And you are in me. Journey began then. A process.but all ways accompanied by his peace and his presence continually by. Jesus OWNSme and so is the rest of me. Spirit first,soul and body.he fills everything within me.From spirit to spirit to the physical. He is so gentle and always continually talking to me as I am the only one he really loves me.Jesus is the one who iniates everything. I love him so much more than ever before.

  61. Alice says:

    I’ve been thinking about recent events, and the odd number of things that seem to be suddenly happening. I read through every single one of the comments, but, I still feel there’s a big unanswered question here – or several. The first being not really something of a dogmatic rejection of this but, just something I can’t wrap my mind around: I see very clearly why we would want to have sex with Jehovah, but why would Jehovah want to have sex with us? In aggregate or individually? My fear here is not just the possibility of being wrong in terms of the mental intercourse, but also, what if this is later attributed as a sin of narcissism or something of this nature? Personally, I am not really the person I’d choose to sleep with, if I had a choice of sleeping with anyone, just, objectively speaking. I have no idea what my spirit looks like, and I know Jehovah/Jesus transcends appearances but, furthermore I am a human being who sins and is not perfect therefore, what can I possibly offer the Father in this? I just keep wondering, would this be pity sex? Does the Father “get” anything out of this, is it pleasing to Him or, is it just “my child wants something ridiculous, and in my generosity I am going to give it to them.” I guess this is a broader question of what benefit to Jehovah/Jesus any of our worship is at all. I too feel a strong drive to worship, submit, obey, glorify, but – if the Father has no need for it or for us then, I guess, what are we doing? Maybe this question is only an issue for me.

    Anyway, the other more fearful issue is what if it’s a demonic invitation masquerading as Jehovah/the Father/ Jesus Christ? I admit it would be confusing because it would seem to offer praise to the Father but, I’m not sure if testing the spirits is purely knowing if someone comes in the Father’s name? I guess my concern is I’ve never read about the Father wanting intercourse literally with anyone in the Bible…maybe I’m reading it wrong, I know there are some phrases in there that definitely use sexual allegory…but we have read about angels sleeping with human women, and the outcome offended God so badly it apparently required the flood. I think this would be the major source of anxiety.

    I guess another issue is to consider the timing. Consider the person who never had this experience for 40 years and just suddenly started having it. The fact that this website and others have come out in favor of this so strongly, whereas, when I was growing up, this would never even be considered from what I know. Which is not much admittedly. But something is definitely “new” about this – in that, everyone seems to have had recent experiences with this. Nobody seems to say “oh yes, I’ve been doing this for 20 years now”, etc. etc. I guess part of me is in this state of sadness and wonder if this is part of the “grand delusion.”

    At the same time, I feel like it’s impossible for a person to actually resist such a thing. It’s impossible for a person not to want it having thought it.

    What suggestions would there be for prayer for a person who isn’t fully sure, but feels sure they are so accepted by God as to be having sex with Him – possibly the highest form of acceptance imaginable?

    I guess there’s only reason to fall back upon. Are we saints or martyrs or people who have so pleased God that any of us, our bodies, soul, spirits – would be worthy of such an interaction with God? Is God so merciful as to stoop down to entertain such “fantasies”?

    Isn’t this the same being who wants us to pick up our crosses and carry them, and to crucify the flesh and bring all thoughts in obedience to Christ? To not love the world? It feels like the equivalent of God buying one a giant ice cream cone or something extremely physically pleasurable – or something of this nature, it just feels as though, how could God possibly find value in us to “cater” to our desires in such a fashion? Aren’t we the ones who are supposed to be doing the seeking, and only a few of us finding? Have any of us gone through tribulation or extreme suffering so as to merit …or…well I know that’s wrong but…still isn’t it a point, who of us are “perfect” as the Father is perfect? Who of us is “righteous” even to be spared hell? Then, how much more so to be given sexual intercourse with our Maker?

    My reason cannot stop my feelings and responses but, still, I worry about what my “sound mind” is saying….don’t you?

    • Dear Alice,

      I appreciate your comments. I know you said you read the comments, but I’m not sure you read the blog post. The point is not the physical act. It is being completely known and loved. Many people are having sex, regularly, with many people. It is based on feeling good and pleasure. Sex is pleasurable, but the purpose is to unite two people to become one. It is based on lifelong commitment and mutual love for each other.

      God wants our full commitment to Him. He wants to join with us to seek mutual benefits. He thinks we are amazing and wants to be with us. Pity sex, as you mentioned, can never happen with Him toward us, besides the fact I’m not talking about the physical act. God is in complete love with you. He doesn’t take pity on you; He celebrates you.

      Can you have an experience that feels like a physical act of sex with God? Many people who have commented are processing that because of experiences they have had. I am not recommending that we should pursue that experience, but the deep levels of intimate connections… yes, pursue that. God is infinite. There is so much more to Him than any of us have ever experienced.

    • Anonymous says:

      Dear friend,

      Let’s clear some terminology. We all Christians are in Union with Christ in that we are one spirit with him. He fills our being. I wouldn’t call it sex but for all in case and purposes we are united to Christ. Some have the ability to sense this filling in the physical realm leading to a sexual response. I like the post about soaking . Many are in a meditative state when they feel become aware of the spirit and body connect. Our physical bodies process the reality of the spiritual. Some are better at it than others. I would focus on you relationship with God and allow him to reveal himself the way he chooses. BTW this isn’t new to me, I have had this sensitivity for about 15 years. Many are experiencing this for the first time because we are learning to soak, mediate and spend more time with God. Culture is placing more focus on the spirit body connect. Is it an accident, no! God knows how he created us, and it’s all for a purpose. Hope this helps. Enjoy the journey.

  62. D C Hustwick says:

    does having sex with God take on a physical aspect.

    • The purpose of this post was that the intimacy levels of sex are meant to draw us into similar levels of intimacy with God. Having a feelings of a physical act are what many are trying to work through who have come to this post. People often don’t feel comfortable processing their experiences with people at church because they have felt judged before they can even process. I don’t always know what God will do, but I do know that He is actively pursuing each person.

  63. Laura says:

    I’ve had physically affectionate feelings towards Yeshua for about 10 years. I want to know if it is sinful, but it feels so right. I ‘ve even recently started to have feelings like others here who have sexually related to him, but I regarded it as off-limits for years. What if it wasn’t? I think it could be beautiful that He can love us, and we can even love him, in ALL ways with nothing off the table! Sometimes I’m caught by my feelings and imaginations while feeling pleasure and I stop it wondering if I’m in blasphemy. But why do I feel this way? I know I love Him and really want to express my love to Him. I’m conflicted and don’t really know if I’m in sin. I came into this by thinking I could share love from feeling physical pleasure with Him since He lives within me and knows what I’m experiencing. Then I’d feel strongly like I wanted to hold Him and do more. I want Us to enjoy Each Other’s love. Maybe Yeshua loves and yearns for this like the best praise we could give Him. I do believe it is up to what the individual wants to do and therefore isn’t for everyone, but I can’t see myself as being able to stop unless I could know for certain that my feelings are wrong and why. I love feeling closer to Him, even if my feelings are influenced by endorphins and oxytocin. But there has to be a reason why I feel this love for Him and not for other people. I’m thinking this is very right, but I’m not certain and wish I could be. I hope me processing my experiences can help others here and that we could get answers together. I’m glad we are becoming bolder in our love for One Who is the most deserving of it. I really admire the people here who weren’t afraid like I was and still am somewhat of going into the sexual realm of expression and thought. I’ve specifically said in prayer that everything I’ve thought and felt about Yeshua or God was meant for absolute love and that no disrespect was ever intended. If you really love someone, you want to share the very best with them and make them feel great. I really love my God, Yeshua.

    • Anonymous says:

      Hi Laura,
      I believe it has something to do with oneness. The body, soul and spirit are one. We are one spirit with him. Some of us have the ability to connect deep ly with our spirit man and we feel the extraordinary deep intimacy that our spirit and God’s. Sex is the only way the body expresses Union, so the experience feels this way. There is no grid to express the spirit’s deep Union. So yes Yeshua is making love to you but the experience is so grand that your body only has one grid. However, that is not a surprise to him. He choose you to experience him this way. To go deeper focus on your spiritual oneness in Christ. You and Him are merged together and made with him on the cross. The great and wonderful ecstasy that you are experiencing is coming from this truth. Your love for him will grow from that place.

    • Anonymous says:

      By the way to add for me it’s been 17 years of absolute love. I’ve questioned as well but after deep wondering I know what I experienced was coming from my spirit to spirit Union with Christ. As we are still with him the experience overflows to our soul and body. I’m in love with Him. Allow yourself to fall in love with Him. It’s ok

  64. Anonymous 20 says:

    Wow.. please read this article. Now I can’t say she’s Christian but one can take what is of good value from this article of the story which is the experiences she has had about union. Her experience maybe relatable or have spoken to me..

    • Anonymous 20 says:

      I don’t think I have had an experience with God exactly or similar like she has but the fact that she talks of something that is like sex with God is relatable to me and others that could be on here

      If you follow her story you can see what things she did and experienced before having her union experiences that she describes in the article.

    • Anonymous 20 says:

      I just want to reiterate that I do not know about kundalini experiences..apparently she feels she had one..and I know there are Christians that consider that not of God and I don’t say one should seek that rather seek God concerning intimacy with Him and how it can look like and to know who Jesus is..

      • Anonymous 20 says:

        So after researching a bit on kundalini I do not advise to to do something like that
        Apparently it can be very dangerous. I put a link to the article because she seemed to experience some sort of experience that I thought people on here may get something from it but yeah I’ve read about how kundalini could make a person crazy

  65. Laura says:

    I hope maybe this recent experience could help others and it has greatly helped me. Yesterday I asked a question in prayer concerning the right view of this relationship we want with God. Is it how others see it as physical lust, or is it really physical love that we feel towards God? Now lately I’ve been been shaking a lot and convulsing from the stomach. I believe this is the Holy Spirit trying to reach me. I was in my car and tapped the lower part of my wheel with my hands as I reasoned this question in prayer. But the answer suddenly came without reasoning. This happened: I tapped my steering wheel with my left hand as I asked “physical lust,” and then my right as I asked “physical love.” I felt my right hand press down hard after tapping and I convulsed strongly. It’s our deep physical love that we feel and express to Yeshua/God if we choose. I also believe I could then even sense Him telling me that He gave us the pleasure we feel as a gift to physically experience His love for us, and that we can share that with Him in our personal relationships with Him if we want. He actually loves and values this type of response. It’s holy and beautiful, full of honor and love for God despite what many people think. I’m thankful for the answer and I love Him! Thanks for supporting each other on this thread through our journeys of love. Don’t listen to the common judgement of people who likely don’t know better due to widespread sexual repression in religion. It’s a matter of how you deeply feel about Yeshua, like is it reverential love through the sexual experience? I state it like this because I’m sure there are people who mockingly think, “What if I could?” with no love or care for Him who is very dear to me. I respect and wish to please Him the way He does me. It’s amazing!

    • Anonymous says:

      Yes God recently showed me that intimacy between a man and woman was taken out of the picture of our intimacy with him. We are one flesh with Christ because of the sacrifice of the cross. It’s not the same as the physical intimacy with a human spouse but the gospel says we died in Union with Him. When we are with our heavenly lover Jesus we are one spirit soul and flesh. One body… we are flesh of his flesh and bone of his bones. There are times when I feel my entire body sinking into him. No lust but yes a physical release of our body experiencing oneness with him. He first gives us love wine to drink then miraculously we fall in love. We start to feel the merging of his body, again not genital but one body that leads to more pleasure than any lustful or even human expression can give. My friend you are not alone.

      • Anonymous Too says:

        How can I have a deeper experience similar to yours? I’ve been intimate like that with God but I haven’t felt myself sinking into him yet. Do you think it’s just a process that God takes us through before going 100%?

        • Anonymous says:

          Yes , you realize that your falling in love with him and that you are experiencing divine bliss as you sexually release. However it’s the ecstasy of all ecstasy. It cannot be even compared to the normal act. Yes we are one, what is happening is we are experiencing oneness with Christ and his body… this releases an ecstasy beyond this world!!! It’s the romance beyond all romances. Over time you experience him deeper and deeper. You realize it’s an intimacy beyond anything known. It’s oneness with his body… a tradition we lost over the years…. the catholic tradition understands this most. Look at Teresa Avila ❤️

  66. Katherine says:

    I am so thankful for this article–even though I am still a little afraid it is letting me off the hook too easily. I have mentioned this to a group of women and they all seem appalled by my explanation of my “having relations” with God. What I mean by that is that I pray as I release sexual urges, rather than the all-too-easy habit of fantasizing over a man who is not my husband. I pray to Him to delight in me, and He tells us He longs to do, and I thank Him for His appreciation of my body, which I have such a difficult time loving. When I read this article I felt uplifted, but then reading the backlash on it I am fearful I have misinterpreted God’s intentions when He says He wants to know me intimately. These times when I pray to Him are not the only times I spend with Him; I do not repeat this habit every night as a replacement for spending time with Him in prayer and devotional reading. Do you have any counsel for me as to whether or not this is wrong?

  67. Anonymous says:

    For me, I know it’s God because I don’t feel dirty afterwards…in fact, I feel peaceful, soundly blissful, and content. In contrast, if done with lust and/or porn then I’d feel gross and tired. Just a thought.

  68. Laura L. says:

    I’ve been in love with Yeshua for about 10 years, and much of this time I would think of Him experiencing my pleasures in times of release. I have only just recently started having thoughts about pleasuring Him which I don’t believe is lust but actually a physical expression of love to Him. I wrote previously about this question I asked in prayer while in my car, and I believe the answer I received was that I truly love Him without lust. I don’t just tell people easily because I know it will be rejected harshly. So, generally, I keep this between me and Him but I felt that I could express this here. Lust and sin are labels that fearful and judging people assign to most things concerning the sexual experience. Is having an orgasm itself a sin, or fantasizing about your spouse a sin? See where I’m going with this? However, I could almost view lust for anyone being sinful because I think solely it means just wanting the person sexually without loving or caring for them. Focus on love.

  69. Laura says:

    I’ve been in love with Yeshua for about 10 years, and much of this time I would think of Him experiencing my pleasures in times of release. I have only just recently started having thoughts about pleasuring Him which I don’t believe is lust but actually a physical expression of love to Him. I wrote previously about this question I asked in prayer while in my car, and I believe the answer I received was that I truly love Him without lust. I don’t just tell people easily because I know it will be rejected harshly. So, generally, I keep this between me and Him but I felt that I could express this here. Lust and sin are labels that fearful and judging people assign to most things concerning the sexual experience. Is having an orgasm itself a sin, or fantasizing about your spouse a sin? See where I’m going with this? However, I could almost view lust for anyone being sinful because I think solely it means just wanting the person sexually without loving or caring for them. Focus on love.

  70. Daryl says:

    Thank you so much for posting this Kevin. It must have taken incredible courage. It has been something of a life line for me as I have been working through this indescribable experience. I often come back and reread the comments over and over for support. At first as my beloved was leading me into this deeper level of intimacy I questioned my sanity. I still do occasionally.
    It seems as though there are many others such as Laura who are experiencing the same thing as I am and I am so grateful for the support of knowing that you all exist. I agree that a forum dedicated to this experience would be awesome. Maybe I could help to set one up. I have been very guarded and quiet about this for this past year but there seems to be such a need here I can’t help pondering how I could go about such a thing… what would the domain name and site name be? Should it be completely unpublished and the link only posted here?
    This new deeper relationship with His Majesty has become a sweet obsession to me. I feel so close to some of you here on the comment section of this blog post. I just mainly wanted you all to know how much you have meant to me.

    • Anonymous 20 says:

      Please let me know if you open one.
      I think it would be incredibly helpful for us to share our stories and experiences and I see if it matches.. or if there similarities

      • Daryl says:

        I will. I’m just trying to work through what this all means…as I suppose all of us are. I often feel as though I’ve stepped through a portal of some kind to a different dimension where everything has a surreal ethereal quality. I didn’t realize the depths of Love that were possible for my King…the depths of intimacy. I’m so hopelessly lovesick and I feel a kinship with you all here who are experiencing this.
        I’m not sure I have the courage yet that Kevin does to face the derision and vitriol that being open with this will surely bring. I suppose I’m still not completely free of the fear of man. And I’m not sure my beloved wants this to be widely published. For now there seems to be only this one little corner of the world that understands what we are experiencing. I’m not sure if that is by design or not.

        Please everyone let us know your thoughts.

        Continued blessings and bliss.

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