So how are we to view the harder rules of Jesus? Try to imagine a loving father saying these things to you. Why would God try to make your life harder?
We each have our own beat to dance to. Other may not hear the beat, but we must still dance because our Father is pleased with our obedience.
If we bring fear into the equation, love is going to leave. Fear casts out love. People eventually rebel when motivated by fear; love keeps us motivated.