It’s that time of year when we tell our loved ones how much we care for them. Flowers, cards, dinners, etc. are all on the checklist for the big day. But what does she really want?
What gift can I give my wife that tells her I love her?
“Greater love has no one than this: to lay down one’s life for one’s friends.”
– John 15:13
I understand this is a big jump, but if I want to find out the right answer, it is where I have to go. Jesus is the ultimate example of love, and He laid down His life for us. And not only is it the example Jesus gave us, He has called us to do the same.
“This is how we know what love is: Jesus Christ laid down his life for us. And we ought to lay down our lives for our brothers and sisters. If anyone has material possessions and sees a brother or sister in need but has no pity on them, how can the love of God be in that person? Dear children, let us not love with words or speech but with actions and in truth” (1 John 3:16:18).
How do I lay down my life for my wife?
Brace yourself. Some of you may not be ready for this, but if a husband wants to lay down his life for wife, he needs to take away any obligations he has placed on her for the evening. For most men, we look at Valentine’s Day as a guarantee night of sex. If we want to truly love our wives, we need to remove the feeling that they need to pay us back for our gifts of love.
Love will also get us to deny ourselves and the need to fight back. There are times our wives say things that hurt and sometime they are untrue. If we love our wives, we would not attack back. We may address the comment peacefully, but we cannot force them to see things our way. This is one reason love is supernatural. The level God calls us to die to our self is only possible knowing that He thinks we are amazing, even when those around us may be in doubt.
What can I get my wife for Valentine’s Day?
So what does that leave as a gift? Each of our wives are different, so the actual gift will be different for each. But, here are some ways to find out what to do:
Ask her. She may not come out and tell you, so be creative in how you ask. “What is something that makes you happy?” “What is something that you like to do with me?” “”If you had a day off, what would you like to do?”
Ask one of her friends. Women generally like to be pursued, so they may not give you an immediate answer. Have no fear, there are still options for you. Her friends may give you some good hints. Don’t ask what should I get my wife. Instead ask if she has mentioned to them anything lately she wanted to have or do.
Ask God. You may be surprised at this, but God likes us to have good marriages. What is something I can do this Valentine’s Day to make her feel special? Write down whatever He brings to mind. You can tweak it later as you figure out how to make it a reality.
What does any of this have to do with prayer?
Husbands, in the same way be considerate as you live with your wives, and treat them with respect as the weaker partner and as heirs with you of the gracious gift of life, so that nothing will hinder your prayers. – 1 Peter 3:7
- Men, what are some gift suggestions you are doing to help your fellow man?
- Women, what are some gift suggestion you wish your husband will give to you?
Kevin Shorter is the founder of this prayer-coach site and have served for several years in ministry and churches teaching on a variety of Biblical topics. Go to the contact page to request him to speak at your conferences and seminars.