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Does God Play Favorites?

Does God Play Favorites

Does God Play Favorites?

This question, which came from a reader, is one that most of us have entertained at some point in our lives. We see others doing well, getting their prayers answered, and living happy and contented. Then we see our lives; we may not be doing that bad but it just not as good as others we see. Maybe you are in a hard marriage and your friends got a nice supportive spouse. Maybe you have a friend who died of cancer and others you know were healed. How come some people seem to have it better off than you?

What Does the Bible Say?

Romans 9 is a rough chapter for people who want to say God does not show favoritism. God declares his love for Jacob and hatred for Esau before either one of them was born. God says He raised Pharaoh up so He could display His power.

These are negative examples, but what about John? Why was he the one that Jesus loved? Why did Abraham get singled out to become the father of nations? Why was Gideon picked to save Israel? Why was Moses saved from the killing of infants?

Officially, the Bible says God does not show favoritism (Romans 2:11). However in this context Paul says this to convey that anyone who does evil will reap evil and anyone who does good will reap good. The question remains to the extent of what you receive from God.

There is an interesting account between Jesus and Peter after Jesus’ resurrection (John 21:18-23). Jesus starts to tell Peter the kind of death he would have. Peter turns, sees John, and questions Jesus if John was going to have to go through such suffering. Jesus basically answered what’s that to you.

Questions Regarding Favoritism Reveals Our Own Insecurities

The point Jesus was making was don’t bother yourself about someone else’s relationship with Me. Jesus just wants us to follow Him. “I will have mercy on whom I have mercy, and I will have compassion on whom I have compassion”, but also know that “I reward faith” (Romans 9:15Hebrews 11:6). You can trust that His will for you is good, pleasing and perfect (Romans 12:2). If we get our eyes off other people, we will see that God is good to us. Other people may experience Him differently, but we get as much of God as we want. He does not withhold His goodness from us. We can be thankfully in every circumstance because He loves us with an everlasting love (1 Thessalonians 5:18Jeremiah 31:3).

Does God Play Favorites?

He treats us all differently because we are all created differently. Should He treat you the same as the person down the street? No. They are not the same person as you. They don’t have the same calling and destiny. We are to love God with all that we were given. We are to glorify Him the way we were specifically created. You will minister to God’s heart like no one else because there is no one like you.

Just rest assured that you can always enjoy more of God. The path is simple. Draw near to Him and He will draw near to you (James 4:8).

Does God play favorites? I tend to say no, but I don’t really care. I do know that He loves me more than I can already handle and that’s enough for me. I also know He will never introduce me to anyone He doesn’t love as much as me and that motivates me.


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19 Responses to “Does God Play Favorites?”

  1. Tom says:

    My own experience in life is God plays favorites, and He dosent
    Bless done people.

    God also makes mistakes

    Tom

    • Kevin says:

      My experience is that he plays favorites as well. He certainly is not the all-loving God that is portrayed in the scriptures. He babies some, and could care less if others suffer and die. Not exactly someone I want to live with in the hereafter. If Satan is awful, the hypocrite who calls himself “God” is not a much better alternative.

      • Dear Kevin,
        I appreciate your sentiment. It is very hard to determine what people are thinking and the reasons they do things. It is harder to understand God’s reasoning when it comes to what we can see. I’m not going to make a rationale for you to believe like me, but I will mention how I come to grips with this. There are some people that seem to do well and others that seem to suffer, and it doesn’t seem to be based on who is good or who is bad. I just understand that each person is loved by God and sometimes He allows life to happen. There is evil in this world, and there are people who enjoy doing bad things. There are also people that are greedy and do things at the expense of others. It is terrible, but it happens. Just because it does happen, I don’t assume that God wants it this way. In my experience He has loved everybody I have seen Him interact with. In those areas that I don’t understand, I choose to believe He is loving them too. Thank you for sharing. I understand that is a hard feeling to overcome.
        Blessings,
        Kevin

        • Gary says:

          God is said to have created everything. He is said to be omnipotent. So if he is all powerful and all knowing, why create Lucifer if God knows he will rebel and try to take God’s creation down? Why not just wipe out all evil? is he unwilling or just unable? if he is so loving why does hear some people’s prayers and not others? In the bible he is responsible for almost all deaths that are told about. If humanity is made in his image then by your own words as some people are greedy then he must be also. If some people are evil then he must be also for he literally created evil. I have a very hard time believing God is a just and loving God. Holes can be shot into an argument about him. Why believe when all you is crap all around you?

          • Dear Gary,
            Thank you for the comment. I understand that others view as you do and assume God created evil and also must evil to some degree. This blog is not meant to convince you otherwise, but to help you understand where I’m coming from I will try to explain a bit. Everyone has the chance to experience all of the love of God that they want. Evil entered the world not because God wasn’t loving, but because man had a choice to love or to not to love. Without that choice it wouldn’t really be love. If He were to wipe out all evil, all choice would be gone – and most people for that matter. He didn’t create humans to wipe them out, so He is allowing time for them to choose love before they choose eternity apart from God. The more we pursue the love of God, the more we are open to experience His love. I wish you the best in your journey.
            Thanks,
            Kevin

          • Sarah says:

            Very nicely put Gary!

    • Sarah says:

      I agree with you Tom

  2. Ken says:

    god most certainly does play favorites. There are also a lot of things he doesn’t do as wel, like give a shit about kids dying of hunger. “oh, he cares! but people are bad and the world is fallen!” It’s always everyone else’s fault, never god’s. He plays his little chess game with satan at our expense and invites calamity into our lives to grind us into dust.

    I think people are justified in hating god. I believe in god and jesus christ. I also hate them both with a passion. he’s let me down numerous times, and I see no reason to serve or humble myself before such an impotent god who calls himself sovereign yet turns his ears to the cries of dying children. He’s a sado-masochistic, arrogant being who loves blessing the shittiest people imaginable on the planet, yet inviting calamity into the lives of his followers in order to make some moronic point that only he understands. We’re simply worthless pawns in his chess battle with lucifer.

    Save your time, enjoy life and live for yourself. why serve a god out of fear of hellfire and be manipulated in such a way?

    • Dear Ken,

      Normally I delete comments that don’t show that they even read the post, but I understand you wanting a place to vent. I assume that there is probably more that you could also share. I hope you can find peace because anger is never fun to live with, even if it’s toward what you assume is an impotent God.

      I wish you well in life.
      Kevin

  3. Brian says:

    Ken raises good points that even Christians can’t even agree on how to approach. God does play favorites and most believers are too afraid to admit it. They are blinded with “the word” and again, this being something no two preachers will agree on. Equality and God are mutually exclusive. A simple example is that of professional athletes who claim to be Christian. Question; if it’s God’s “will” for someone to be an elite NFL quarterback worth millions of dollars, then can it also not be God’s will for someone to be a cashier for the rest of their lives and struggle from paycheck to paycheck to survive?

    Do not try to dodge the question with feelings. Responses such as, “why would God want someone to do this for the rest of their lives”, is dodging the question. It’s a simple yes or no answer.

    Brian

    • Dear Brian,
      Ken’s question was why serve a god out of fear of hellfire and be manipulated in such a way? I didn’t answer this questions because this was not what the blog post was about. In fact I have never insinuated in anything I have written that people should serve God out of fear of hell. I believe people should serve God because you serve the people you love and who love you. I had no reason to believe from his comment that he had read anything I had written besides the title of this post.

      You obviously read the comments, but in the post I wrote something very similar to your question about God’s will for one to be an elite NFL quarterback and the other person who is a cashier.

      Just so you know, I don’t write these to influence non-Christians, however, you are welcome to read to see what some Christians think. I’m not trying to sway your ideology, only help those how are looking for more of God. Hope that helps you.

      I wish you the best.
      Kevin

  4. Myritehandman@gmail.com says:

    This is something that I’m struggling with right now . I just graduated with a professional degree. I worked really hard during those years but yet I find myself struggling financially and currently unemployed. I have a peer who attended the same school, earned the same degree, but within a 4 months period she married the love her life and has an excellent career. We attend the same church. I’m a member and she’s not. Yet she constantly judges me from not trusting God or being positive all the time. If I was in her position I would have all the faith in the world. I can’t help but to question God as to why ? I would rather just die than to continue to struggle to no avail . Yes things could be worse but why should I b satisfied with the bread crumbs that God gives me when he gives others a entire loaf?

    • Thank you for sharing your current struggles. It is never easy when you see others pass you by for no apparent reason. It’s worse when you know some of their faults, yet they still succeed past you. There is a story in John 22 (I think) where Jesus explains to Peter the type of death he would have. Peter freaks out and points to John and asks, “what about him?” Jesus’ response applies to all of us. “If I want him to remain alive until I return, what’s that to you? Follow me.” God has us all on different plans. He knows what we need and what we are created for. Will we still pursue and follow Him when we don’t like the way things are going? I pray that you not only find a job soon, but you find one that brings you joy, challenges you to grow, and pays well. Rejoice with your peer. Don’t let envy set foot in your heart. But, contend and pray for those things you desire from God.

      Hope this helps.
      Kevin

  5. Debbie says:

    I truly feel that God, unfortunately shows favoritism. As parents, we are expected to treat our children fairly, I would certainly expect God to do the same. I have experienced and observed many people in my life who have been blessed beyond words and then my family, along with other good families I know who have had to endure such tragedies and a constant feeling of God “taking his foot and shoving us back under the water when we feel like we have come up for air.” No, it’s not fair, but I keep trying to convince myself that those of us who are having to live a life of hell on Earth will have a special place in Heaven, and those of you who live your Heaven on Earth…good luck to you getting into Heaven for eternity!

    • Dear Debbie,
      Thank you for your comment. I understand how you can feel this way. Be careful that your interpretation doesn’t hinder you form hearing God’s viewpoint on the matter. Things may not be as they seem.
      Blessings,
      Kevin

  6. ds says:

    He lets attractive people like kings and queens, and less attractive people like crap.

  7. Jean says:

    Kevin I see your last post was in September so I hope u are still available on this subject. I’ve been a believer for 30 years trusting God through everything good and bad. Recently this favoritism came to play in our lives so vividly that it shook my trust in him like never before. Where do I go from here? Trust is the basis for our relationship with God through Jesus. What to do we do if we struggle with trusting that God has good for us after seeing this favoritism play out and hurting us.

    • Dear Jean,

      Thank you for your question. What are your thoughts to the points mentioned in the post? The point was not to argue God plays favorites, but that He does treat us all differently. He loves us where we are at and He wants to connect with us each individually. He longs for our attention and to speak to us. The best way to overcome any feelings that God is playing favorites over you, is to thank Him for the goodness He surrounds you with each day. The more you see His goodness, the less you notice what He is not presumably doing for you.

      Blessings,
      Kevin

  8. Jean says:

    Thanks Kevin. I did read the post and have read it again. I know the verses well and have Klinged to them. My thoughts on yiur post is It is honest and supported by the Word. I know we also can hurt ourselves by relying on our own perception rather than the truth. I have 2 children. As much as I love them both of course I treat them differently and I believe fairly. Even when I go out of my way to be fair and even they never think I’m fair. At the same time there is thst element of experience. I was walking very close to God. I was very grateful for our blessings and then at that very time when I was walking closely with him I feel like he disciplined me for something I did not do. I was not blaming him for playing favorites at all. When he gave us a blessing. But in the end it seemed to have a purpose simply to remind me that he is going to bless who he wants and that is just the way it is and I’m not to complain about it. My trust was shaken and I’m trying to get back to where I was. I’m trying to kling to the truth rather than my own perception. Like I said our perception can throw us off the truth and iike yiu mentioned so can comparing our circumstances to that of others. Your tboughts? Jean

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