February is the month of love in many ways. Every store you go in has heart decorations and cupids floating from the ceiling. If you are blessed to have a romantic love in your life at this time, as well as if you have kids, here are some ideas on how to communicate your love for them… without buying stuff that turns into clutter!
These ideas are based on The Five Love Languages by Dr. Gary Chapman, a pastor here in Winston-Salem. Many of you have probably read this book in the past, but try to look at it in a new light as you think of this from an organizer’s standpoint. And for those of you who haven’t read it, the premise is that we all speak one primary language, and to enhance your relationship, it’s wonderful to learn to speak your spouse’s (or child’s) primary language so they are more able to understand how much you love them. Below are the five languages and a thought about each.
Physical Touch: Hugs and holding hands never goes out of style no matter how old you are or how long you have been married. You could even surprise your spouse this month with spontaneous massages. They are free, and don’t become clutter! J
Acts of Service: What person doesn’t love someone who voluntarily and happily serves them? Every relationship has its own list of who does what, so your job would be to figure out how to do something from your spouse’s (or child’s) area of responsibility. Some ideas are to balance the checkbook, clean the shower, take out the trash, or do something that your husband would love you to do for him.
Gift Giving: If you want to give a gift this Valentine’s Day, why not make it an experience instead of a thing? For example, instead of buying him some gadget, get him tickets to a sporting event or an overnight getaway with you. Make it well thought out, and something you know he would enjoy.
Quality Time: Put the kids to bed early one night and focus on your husband. Again, think of what he enjoys and tailor it to him. Some ideas would be to read a chapter of a book (or an entire book) or watch a good movie and discuss it, or taking a Saturday to drive through the mountains together. Try to talk, laugh, and have a good time!
Words of Affirmation: Let your spouse know how wonderful he is, what specific traits you admire in him (loyalty, kindness, hard working…), and tell him how happy you are to be with him.
Doing some combination of the above would surely be well received! Happy Valentine’s Day!